This is my first thread on here and i don't know if this is the right place to post it but I don't know where to go.
I opened my husband's mobile bill yesterday and it has never been itemised before but this time it was. There were 141 texts to one number and 91 to another number, including photo's. I know neither of the numbers. I phoned him in work and he came home to talk about it.
It turns out that he has been downloading internet porn for ages. I always wondered why his bills were so high. He has spent over £1,000 in the past 18 months. He's also been phoning sex lines and having cyber sex with strangers in internet chat rooms. This has been going on for years. He thinks he may have spoken to some of the girls on the phone but he can't remember. The texts are because he joined a flirt line on orange and then swapped numbers with two of the girls and they have been sending explicit sexual texts to each other, along with photo's. On one day there are over 68 texts, from two in the afternoon until half one in the morning. Some of them are just after he left the house to go to work.
He says he didn't consider it cheating as it was just "wanking". He has been sending these texts while he's been sat next to me on the sofa FFS. He's refused to have sex with me saying he wasn't ready after our DS was born 10 months ago.
He seems to be taking it seriously, having changed his phone number, barred internet and adult numbers from his phone and registering us for relate. He admits he has a problem and has not tried to blame me but I'm just in bits. It feels like an affair to me. I don't know what to say to him or how to fix this. Apart for the lack of sex I didn't think there was a problem in our relationship. What do I do?
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To think my husband has had an affair (sorry - it's long)
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Completelyfloored · 13/10/2009 16:01
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