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to send my son to nursery all day so I can see dd harverst assembly in peace.

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happyharry Tue 13-Oct-09 12:23:11

My 3 years old goes to afternoon nursery but we have the option of wraparound care. My dd goes to same school and they are having a Harvest assembly. Planning to send him to school all day so I can concentrate on my olders childs harvest assembly.

purpleturtle Tue 13-Oct-09 12:24:39

Sounds very sensible to me.

ADragonIs4LifeNotJustHalloween Tue 13-Oct-09 12:24:56

Why would you not do this??!

ben5 Tue 13-Oct-09 12:26:10

dd will be really pleased you did this. we have done it for our kids to. it's great to give older kids 1 on 1 time. put ds in day care and enjoy your dd show

daftpunk Tue 13-Oct-09 12:27:57


egypt Tue 13-Oct-09 12:29:12

Sending him to nursery for longer isn't a punishment. Of course do that. Very important for you to be there for your dd.

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 13-Oct-09 12:30:17

god yes do it! I can't wait for the day DS3 starts nursery so I can attend my DS1 and 2's school day time stuff without having to worry about babysitters or keeping him quiet during it

MrsBadger Tue 13-Oct-09 12:31:18

yanbu - brilliant idea

if he likes nursery I tentatively suggest doing it more for eg dentist appts when it would be a pain to take him with you.

jeee Tue 13-Oct-09 12:32:30

You do know that the Harvest Assembly will be yawn-inducing don't you? And that a rampaging 3 year old would liven it up no end? Apart from that, I think it's a great idea.

daftpunk Tue 13-Oct-09 12:36:34

i often wonder why people bother having children when i read threads like this..

..they come in very useful for spare parts...

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 13-Oct-09 12:39:30

wtf are you on about daftpunk??

The OP wants to go and watch her other child in their harvest assembly. Her younger child already goes to nursery so would just be spending some extra time there so the OP can watch the older child.

Would you be saying the same thing if the OP said

"my friend/mum/neighbour has offered to have my 3yr old so I can go to the harvest assembly of my older child"???

I think, but could be wrong, DP is on the wind up.....

daftpunk Tue 13-Oct-09 12:47:09

what the fuck am i on about..


1) maybe the younger child would like to see his sister doing her harvest assembly..?

2) maybe the older child would like her little brother to watch her....?

3) harvest assemblies are about kindness and coming together...ironic that this mother wants to dump her own kid at nursery so she can get 20 minutes peace.

ironic...don't you just love that word..

megapixels Tue 13-Oct-09 12:47:54

LOL, it's just one extra session, why would you even wonder if YABU!

zipzap Tue 13-Oct-09 12:51:23

Very sensible. DS2 (18m) escaped when DS1 (4y, 1st assembly iwth parents) came into the hall and sprinted down the aisle to catch up with his big bro. Cue lots of laughter and then sharp intake of breath as he was knocked down (by accident) by one of the other little kids following. And it meant dh had to sprint down the aisle to get him back.

On the one hand it was kind of cute but really it did mean that there were some kids coming in that couldn't see their parents or got distracted or whatever because dh was there rescuing ds2, even though he did try to be as quick and discreet as posible there's no denying that he is much bigger than the average 4 year old!

unfortunately for us the nursery and school are in different directions so we would have to be out of the door a good half an hour earlier to be sure of getting to nursery and then back to school on time; having made it with seconds to spare the last few mornings (finding it a bit of a shock to the system!) I can't see that happening very often grin

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 13-Oct-09 12:52:51


1. I'm now (almost) onto onto my 3rd 3yr old of my own. None of them were really interested in watching at that age. And they certainly wouldn't sit still.

2. Maybe the older child doesn't care (DS and 2 have never been bothered if their siblings were at such things or not - as long as either I or DH were there they were happy.

3. Perhaps the school has a policy of no children or limited seats.

And I can tell you there is NOTHING worse in this world than taking a pre-schooler to watch your child in a school assembly/service and having to leave 10 minutes in because your pre-schooler is throwing a tantrum

Bramshott Tue 13-Oct-09 13:10:12

Maybe, Daftpunk, but maybe they wouldn't?!?!

OP - YANBU. I would do the same if it was an option (i.e. it was a known setting and it was on site / nearby). We are constantly getting lectures from DD1's school asking us to PLEASE make arrangements for pre-schoolers so we don't have to bring them, but usually it's just not practical.

daftpunk Tue 13-Oct-09 13:15:29

if it was school policy not to allow young children at the assembly she wouldn't have started this thread would she...

sorry, but i'm completely right here.

alwayslookingforanswers Tue 13-Oct-09 13:16:43

ok - you can take my DS3 to DS2's harvest service tomorrow - I'm sure he'll sit really nicely and quietly the whole way through and you won't have to leave before DS2's year has done their bit hmm

Hulababy Tue 13-Oct-09 13:17:43


If your 3y likes nursery he will get to play and have fun. Chances are at 3y he will have more fun running round nursery with his friends for an extra hour than sittin on your lap in a school hall.

And your older child wll get your full attention for a little while too.

Seems like a sensible plan.

daftpunk Tue 13-Oct-09 13:19:40

it's your job to teach your child to sit still for 20 minutes...not someone elses..

Hulababy Tue 13-Oct-09 13:19:51

"sorry, but i'm completely right here."

No. In your opinion, and for your family and your situation, you may be right. Fine.

However there is no one right way of parenting. What is right for you is not always right for someone else and their family situation.

Wanting to spend 20 minutes focusing on your elder child, without being distracted by a younger one, is not IMO something that is wrong.

notyummy Tue 13-Oct-09 13:20:10

Send him.

Focus on your dd.

I am sure the siblings have plenty of quality time together without going to each others harvest assembly.

I mean, its not like you are putting him in so you can go for a massage....which I've done.....

<notyummy is chalked up on daftpunks 'i dont know why they bothered having them' list instantly..>

6feetundertheGroundhogs Tue 13-Oct-09 13:20:34

Your 3yo will LOVE going for the whole day.. he'll want to stay all day again...

It'll be a treat for both your DC... Do it, do it, do it!

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