I have namechanged as, if I do complain, I don't want to be traced through this thread.
We were at a theme park yesterday and the DCs were on an activity where they have to be shown what to do first, without parents present.
When they had done their thing and we were walking away, DS1 (9) said:
"By the way, when we were shouting, we didn't mean Daddy."
I didn't know what he meant so asked him.
He said "The ladies got us to shout out XX STINKS because of that man who'd been annoying them" (XX being DH's name as well, conincidentally.)
I said "What man?" thinking WTF and he pointed to a normal late-teens-early-twenties, nice-looking young man who was working on the activity.
Obviously I immediately knew what had happened. They are young, and there's flirting and banter going on and as part of this "office joking" the girls decided to get the kids to chant something mildly offensive to tease the guy. I am happy that he thought it all a good laugh.
However I felt quite uncomfortable that my DCs and others are being encouraged to chant something insulting en masse to someone whose feelings they know nothing about. If they did the same at school to another child it would probably be classed as bullying and land them in deep water. Which is not of course as serious as the feelings of the poor little victim. One of DS1's friends has already been bullied and DS1 says the bullies said he smelled .
Of course I will explain to the DCs that grown ups tease each other in funny ways and that they weren't really being horrible to the man, and they had better not do that, etc.
But I wondered whether I should write a mild letter asking those in charge to 'have a word' asking the young staff to not rope the children into their teasing, as they just don't get it.
Am now hoping you'll all tell me to get over myself so I don't have to bother my arse to actually write in .
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RedChrysanth · 11/10/2009 08:33
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