My sister and BIL have been married like since the beginning of time (or at least it seems that way).
I don't really know how to say this - but I am starting to suspect that their relationship is abusive. Although not in a traditional sense. I suspect my sister is the abuser. Her husband has always been really shy, quiet and considerate. However, over the past year his behaviour has changed. He has become really withdrawn and won't ever give an opinion that is different from hers. Today I saw him and he stood in the kitchen the whole time I was there - not participating in conversation, just waiting upon her. A couple of times I have heard her shout at him. Once for breaking a plate and once when I called her up she screamed at him to get out of bed and she was really aggressive. She is also unafraid to put him down in front of other people.
When we were children she was always aggressive and had to have her way about everything and at times in my life I have found her frightening.
I know this is a strange post - up until now I have not interfered with their relationship but now I am starting to wonder if I should do something. I am not that close to my BIL but I am starting to worry about him. Am I reading into things too much? Would you do anything?
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verbatim · 10/10/2009 23:42
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