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to think my ex should not have told me this?

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mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 19:41:21

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mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 19:45:31

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TrickOrNinks Sat 10-Oct-09 19:50:55

Oh definitely cut him out, you'll have no peace else. He is being an arse upsetting you. Is he trying to keep you hanging on? Don't let him!

Not easy I know (from experience) but it does get easier with time. And one day you'll wonder what you were even thinking going near the twat. Promise smile

nighbynight Sat 10-Oct-09 19:52:18

that is very insulting, considering he's been your partner between her and now. Kind of justifies splitting with him.
Move on! yes, I know its easier said than done too.

zebramummy Sat 10-Oct-09 19:54:10

i smell a (love) rat

BLEEPyouYOUbleepingBLEEP Sat 10-Oct-09 19:54:20

Perhaps he's trying to gauge your feelings for him?

mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 20:02:01

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BLEEPyouYOUbleepingBLEEP Sat 10-Oct-09 20:07:08

In that case zebras right he's a rat, some blokes like to twist the knife, esp if they know you still have feelings, gives them a power trip.

Time to find some alternative fun elsewhere?? wink

mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 20:34:44

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WhereYouLeftIt Sat 10-Oct-09 20:48:57

So he just thinks thst once he's been in her life, no woman can move on? Nice.

WhereYouLeftIt Sat 10-Oct-09 20:49:34

thst = that blush

mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 21:13:49

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FABIsInTraining Sat 10-Oct-09 21:15:47

Why do you have regular contact with him?

mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 21:16:17

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mmmwine Sat 10-Oct-09 21:20:39

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FABIsInTraining Sat 10-Oct-09 21:22:55

Been there.

Feels great to stop.

Lighter.

Free.

Happier.

Calmer.

Relieved.

nighbynight Sat 10-Oct-09 21:37:51

Ignore his emails, and when he calls, say "I have to go right now, cos Im a bit busy today. You have a nice evening, bye!"

TrickOrNinks Sat 10-Oct-09 21:42:10

Do you have to have contact with him - DC?

mmmwine Sun 11-Oct-09 16:17:57

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diddl Sun 11-Oct-09 16:23:13

Am I unusual in not being in contact with any of my exes?

mmmwine, you know you have to break contact for your own sake!

Why would you be bothered about getting on with someone with whom you had a messy breakup?

cruelladepoppins Sun 11-Oct-09 22:12:01

diddl - your experience with exes sounds a bit like mine. Mind you I feel guilty about it! ("Why can I not be a better friend/ more mature?" etc).

OP - if you don't have kids with this guy then let go, don't beat yourself up about it. Find something nicer to do with your life. I would just be honest - "I'm sorry, ex-partner, I still have feelings for you and so I don't want to be in touch for a while, give me time to get over it. I know you'll understand." And I would take coward's way out and do this in reply to a text or email. Then don't take his calls - if he tries to engage you in a discussion, you can always say "I have nothing more to say about this. Please leave me alone."

FABIsInTraining Mon 12-Oct-09 07:22:50

mmmwine - it isn't realistic to think you can be friends with everyone nevermind exes. You are doing yourself no good and serving no purpose still being in contact with this guy. Other than boosting his ego of course.

mmmwine Mon 12-Oct-09 23:39:23

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FABIsInTraining Tue 13-Oct-09 07:55:20

<<<<hugs>>>>

It hurts but how you feel when you come out the other side is fantastic.

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