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AIBU?

making somebody crash.....

46 replies

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:48

Just done the school run. It's a two way road with one of the sides being blocked by parked cars and buses at school run time, so effectively one carriageway. Was my right of way, but I stopped to let one car down that had already started past the blocking cars.

This was followed by about ten other cars, only one of which acknowledged the fact that I had had to wait.

So when the eleventh started coming down the road, I though sod it and started to drive too. So they pulled over (in the very tight space) and knocked somebodies wing mirror off.

Was I BU to start driving even though my right of way.

(Should add this was all done at about 5mph so no danger to passing DCs)

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TrillianSlasher · 06/10/2009 15:50

YABU - if someone else is already in the space then you no longer have right of way.

Frrrightattendant · 06/10/2009 15:50

I often wonder how this works and whether you're meant to just sit there for three years or drive headlong into them

bruxeur · 06/10/2009 15:50

Yes - you drive like a twat.

Next!

Frrrightattendant · 06/10/2009 15:52

and bear in mind the eleventh car prob just couldn't see you

though that means they were being totally unreasonable as well

nobody wants these situations
they always contain a few nobbos but mainly just ordinary people trying to do the same as you

try not to lose it in future, I know tis hard

JackBauWooohooohoowaaer · 06/10/2009 15:52

Seriously? Yes, YABU. It was their right of way too.

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:52

You're prob right trillian

but how long should I have sat there for whilst everybody coming the other way being complete t**rs??

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tinkerbellesmuse · 06/10/2009 15:52

YABU

I don't know what gets into people when they get behind the wheel of their cars: Really no need to be so agressive.

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:53

Bruxeur - how is it me driving like a twat when I'd actually been nice enough to let people through, and then totally been taken advantage of??

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MichKit · 06/10/2009 15:53

No, YANBU at all... some cars really take the piss out of someone who's decided to be nice!!

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:54

Thanks Michkit

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OrmIrian · 06/10/2009 15:55

YABU but I can sympathise. It is very annoying but funny how someone acknowledging your kindness can make all the difference.

bruxeur · 06/10/2009 15:55

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nickelbabe · 06/10/2009 15:55

although you lost your right of way, it isn't fair that you had to keep waiting and waiting.
he should have seen that you were there and it was your right of way until he drove into it.

this doesn't mean that him knocking off someone's mirror is your fault: he didn't have to go into the space that wasn't big enough for him.

he could quie easily have reversed.

TrillianSlasher · 06/10/2009 15:55

That's the risk of being kind - people take advantage, especially when they dont know how long it will be before they get a chance to go through if they stop. You have to either wait for a gap or for the next kind person.

Making someone crash kind of ruins your 'I was nice and let people through' vibe, don't you think?

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:55

Not really - he could have reversed.

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tinkerbellesmuse · 06/10/2009 15:56

And you could have tried sitting there for longer than 10 cars...wow that most taken all of.....er 45 seconds.

If te person coming the other way was a decent person they are now having a really shot day cos they have to replace a wing mirror and if they are an arse the person who had their wing morrior broken is now having a shit day as they returned to their car to find it broken.

All cos you're so impatient

MichKit · 06/10/2009 15:57

stonethecrows, I've seen this happening several times too. DH decides to be nice and let the one person through and sure enough the next 20 cars decide to get in on the action!! Drives me fricking nuts, so seriously, imo, YANBU... in fact, surprised you waited for so long in the first place

stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 15:57

If the person coming the other way was a decent person perhaps they should have let me through???

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stonethecrows · 06/10/2009 16:00

Although I do have to say it looks like the weight of opinion is against me on here, so I shall gracefully accept IABU (and remember to bend over and take it up the a**e from all drivers next time I take the car out. )

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blueshoes · 06/10/2009 16:10

YANBU.

I have this all the time on the school run in various permutations because of the tight and congested roads in my area.

If you had the right of way, it is your prerogative when you want to exercise it. If I was say car no. 6 in the convoy and I could see from where I was that you had already given way to 5, I might even stop there to let you through. If I did go through, would certainly acknowledge your giving way.

So if you made any signs that you were going to exercise your right of way, I would have stopped and even reversed if necessary.

Otherwise, it IS taking advantage.

By analogy, if you let someone in that is filtering from a side lane into the main road, it is the 'zipper' principle. The one giving way has no obligation to give way to more than one car.

JackBauWooohooohoowaaer · 06/10/2009 16:11

If there is a long queue of cars, waiting for DC's how did they know you weren't parked?
Either way, they were there first. You have to wait. Sorry.

BiteOfFun · 06/10/2009 16:12

I thought from the OP you were going to tell us you'd flashed someone.

JackBauWooohooohoowaaer · 06/10/2009 16:13

By analogy, if you let someone in that is filtering from a side lane into the main road, it is the 'zipper' principle. The one giving way has no obligation to give way to more than one car.

Actually zip merging is not part of the highway code in the UK so they have no obligation to let any cars out.

JackBauWooohooohoowaaer · 06/10/2009 16:14

bof

stuffitllllama · 06/10/2009 16:14

yanbu

you didn't make him crash

it's his fault he crashed

he should have paused, faced your no-blink chicken run, and reversed

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