To think my DB is being a complete D**K ????

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

I always had quite a close relationship with my DB until we both left home & got married.

DB has become a real miserable sod. He's very negative & most definitely a "cup half empty" person.

DB has flitted from job to job over the years and cannot seem to handle authority. Always feels like his bosses are "taking the piss"........

......Today on facebook, his status read:
"Unbelievable! Why do i bother coming to work with such a twat for a boss! I mean, seriously, the guy is proper fucking retarded!"

I called my Mum to tell her as I was worried that if that status fell into the wrong hands, he could get the sack (People have been sacked for less!). He has a wife (who doesn't work) and 4 young kids to support. Mum said she wanted to ring him so I said that she could tell him she had heard it from me as I was concerned. (Feel like I can't really bring it up with him myself as he gets very defensive).

She calls him & says that maybe it's not a good idea to put that kind of thing on Facebook in case it gets back to his boss somehow. He tells her that he's not that stupid (why post it on FB then if you're not that stupid ????), and that he's pissed off with me for telling her.

He then changes his status to:
"Can no longer put anything derogative on my status's in case someone tells on me!"

and less than an hour later it changed to:
"Everywhere i go, and in everything i do, i'm met by people that annoy me, and i would take the piss out of them, but mother nature has beaten me to it. I know everyone has a need to make themselves feel better, but don't bother doing it at ...my expense anymore, because i just don't give a Fuck anymore about people that don't matter to me!"

These are quite clearly digs at me so....

....AIBU for thinking he's a dick ????

[OrmIrian]

Acts like a dick clearly. Is he depressed?

[wilkos]

no yanbu. he is a PRICK!

[carocaro]

He is a dick but YABU.

Just don't interfer in his life, he is being a dick, but let him, it's nothing to do with you really, of course you are looking aout for him, but he does not want you too.

You always hurt the people you love most. Just email him and tell him you love him and will always be there for him no matter what.

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

OrmIrian - Yes I think he may be depressed. He has a wife who doesn't work. Says she can't because she has 4 kids even though 3 of them are at school all day, they live on benefits and he is a low earner. But we couldn't say anything to him because he would probably go mad !!

Thanks wilkos !!

[Ewe]

YANBU

How old is he? 13?

[ScaryFucker]

dick, yes

but he is a grown man

let him deal with his own fuck-ups

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

carcaro - But it's always my Mum & Dad they fall back on to help them out financially when they are skint or he's out of work. They have bled my parents dry so it's really hard to keep out of it. If they were just hurting themselves, then fair enough, I'd keep out as it's none of my business, but when I can see what they are doing to my parents, it's bloody hard not to interfere.
I don't think an email would get me anywhere tbh.

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

He's almost 28

[carocaro]

CMM - I get it, my brother is 40 and he has only just started getting with the programme of life, my Mum he even took some points on her licence instead of his when he was 32 - INSANE! I gave up ages ago trying to tell my Mum she was a lunatic!

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

I know, it's very hard. I can see how much my parents worry about him, and every time they help them out they say that it will be the last time, yet they keep giving as they don't want to see him up shit creek. But the thing is that DB & SIL know that my parents will keep bailing them out, so it means nothing when my parents say this.

My parents have both worked damn hard for what they've got, yet DB & SIL are happy to keep getting themselves in trouble and asking for more !!! Even down to things like asking my Dad to purchase something on his credit card & they'll give him the cash, yet it never materialises. It's a joke !

[Bathsheba]

TBH it sounds like the type of "railing against everything" that my Dh did when he was vry ill with MH issues - he was suffering from depression, anxiety and paranoia, and its exactly the type of thing he did (and one a bad day still does) say...

The huge negative sweeping statements about "everyone" and "everything" and how "everyone" else is always wrong.

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

Yeah, I can see that Bathsheba. My Mum & I have both suffered with depression in the past, so can recognise the signs, but we daren't say anything to him incase he explodes. Mum is petrified that DB & SIL will stop her seeing her grandkids if she upsets them.

[Bathsheba]

Unfortunately one of the things about MH issues is that people deny they have a problem - generally very viciferously - trust me, I've completely been through the mill

How you deal with it, I honestly don't know, but it sounds to me (and I suspect to you) that he is ill, rather than being a dick

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

Maybe so Bathsheba, but he is still a dick for posting these ridiculous comments on facebook in the first place, illness or no illness

[diddl]

There are people who just can´t handle authority, though, always think they know better than the boss and constantly move from job to job.

And cannot take responsibility and blame everyone else.

[ChunkyMonkeysMum]

That's right diddl, and he is one of them, always has been, even before he got married & had kids.

[DuelingFANGo]

He sounds depressed.

There's no rule to say you have to like eachother though. I'd say block his updates if they piss you off.