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AIBU to resent SIL always taking food off my plate!?

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freename Mon 05-Oct-09 19:14:25

If theres a meal we're at together, home, restaurant, wherever she always samples things off my plate. She never orders dessert, but will happily try and nick some of mine.

It has got to the stage where I go to great lengths to avoid sitting anywhere near her but the last time we were together she actually moved seats to be closer to me!

DH thinks she sees it as some kind of female bonding. Bond with someone else I sayangry Other than confrontation which I want to avoid (because lets face it with her it would be like pandora's box wink) how can I deter this particular obsession.

StealthPolarBear Mon 05-Oct-09 19:16:00

have you tried shouting


hotbot Mon 05-Oct-09 19:16:28

while she is watching, spit on your food first...grin

nickytwotimes Mon 05-Oct-09 19:16:40

My mother and my aunt both think this is reasonable behavior, and it drives me MENTAL!
I just tell them to get off my plate in a jokey manner and move it away if necessary.

Worst thing is my mum uses her fingers. <boak>

piscesmoon Mon 05-Oct-09 19:16:54

Just tell her, politely, that you don't like it.

ArizonaBarker Mon 05-Oct-09 19:17:06

As soon as your food arrives, lick it all.


mmrred Mon 05-Oct-09 19:18:10

'Accidentally' stab her with your fork as she's reaching in.

freename Mon 05-Oct-09 19:18:35

hotbot it may come to that!

Seabright Mon 05-Oct-09 19:18:40

Sneeze & cough all over it.

mmrred Mon 05-Oct-09 19:19:01


StealthPolarBear Mon 05-Oct-09 19:20:01

or after you've boith had some start talking about the really bad D&V bug you're JUST getting over

freename Mon 05-Oct-09 19:20:42

She's often 'off' the alcohol but will want to sample MY wine even if her DH is drinking the same. Sip from his glass FGS!

TheProvincialLady Mon 05-Oct-09 19:20:50

Casually mention in conversation that you have just been to the loo and forgotten to wash your hands. And manhandle your pudding as much as possible.

StealthPolarBear Mon 05-Oct-09 19:21:06

or eat with your fingers after obviously scratching your bum (or pretend to, on second thoughts )

Katisha Mon 05-Oct-09 19:21:26

How extremely annoying.
Can you make a joke of it and swoop your plate away when she approaches it, merrily laughing "get your own".
And then keep doing it...

bibbitybobbityCAT Mon 05-Oct-09 19:21:43

Good God! Scream very loudly "Who the f said you could help yourself off my plate?" I would probably slap someone round the face if they did this to me. Nicky - just because she's your mother you don't have to put up with that you know.

I am a mumsnetter of 4 years standing but I swear this is one of the most outrageous things I have EVER read on here. EVER. HONESTLY. Am so angry on your behalf.

bibbitybobbityCAT Mon 05-Oct-09 19:24:01

Lol! pisces has the best answer.

<now breathing into brown paper bag>

piscesmoon Mon 05-Oct-09 19:25:34

A quiet word, in private, is better than a lot of shouting, licking and spitting!

sayanything Mon 05-Oct-09 19:26:38

I'm with StealthPolarBear on this, I do actually cry "SayAnything does not share food", in the manner of Joey Tribbiani. Few things annoy me more than food envy and DH is oh so guilty.

FABIsInTraining Mon 05-Oct-09 19:26:48

Move your plate away.

And just keep saying no.

TheProvincialLady Mon 05-Oct-09 19:27:04

Gawd bibbity, don't you read many of the theads then?grin

onepieceoflollipop Mon 05-Oct-09 19:27:27

Gosh, calm down bibbity

<<passes valium and camomile tea and strokes forehead soothingly>> grin

freename Mon 05-Oct-09 19:28:13

mmrred I'm thinking she is trying to control her intake and it's ok to take from me (another female who might relate to dieting iyswim). I don't because if I want something I just have it. Maybe she is worried that if she takes from the guys plates they might tease her?

Jux Mon 05-Oct-09 19:31:20

When she goes for it, just swap plates with her. Ostentatiously. "Oh right, I'll have yours then".

colditz Mon 05-Oct-09 19:32:03

You say

"NO. I am hungry. I ordered this portion because I want it. I'll order you one too if you like. I know you like to think you can't eat a whole one, but I CAN."

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