my one saving grace here is that i think i can see that i AM being unreasonable.. but i just don't have anyone else i can say all this stuff to:
i'm 5 months pregnant and we already have a 3 year old DS. my issues are with my husband .. well more how i feel about 'us'..
- he has made it clear (not in a horrible way) that i am not as attractive now as when i'm not pregnant..he's just not as tactile and we haven't really had sex for weeks. he hasn't really done anything per se.. its what he hasn't done. if htat makes sense! it just makes me really sad and embarrased about him seeing me at all, let alone seeing me undressed.
- i keep having these horrendous, really vivid dreams but one in particular was that he was seeing (just for sex) a woman at work. this is a totally base-less suspicion (as far as i know). i have no rashional reason to think it true but since the dream, i am obsessed tha it might be.. i even snooped through his phone earlier to see if there was anything incriminating... of course, there wasn't.. but it still niggles..
i suppose, if i had to sum it up... i just feel a bit unspecial and unattractive and as if i'm not really someone he'd want to stay around for.
- everything makes me cry at the moment.. WTF?!! this did not happen with DS. as i type, i am sobbing over the computer.. what is the matter with me?
if i didn't know better, i woudl say that i am depressed... what is the matter with me? why have i become this miserable, neurotic person?
i'm desperately trying to hide it from my husband. i haven't told him any of this or how i feel incase it would give him 'another' reason not to want to be with me or to stay with me and our DS and the baby when it comes. i am actually 'afraid' that he might catch me in tears again.
i should probably add that he has an ex wife and there was an affair that ended it. but we have been together for nearly 10 years and married for 4. i don't understand where all this insecurity and horrible emotional messiness is coming from. he's a brilliant father to DS and his two older children and i think he's a good husband so why am i feeling so negative and looking for signs that he doesnt want me anymore?
can anyone relate to these kinds of feelings? how do i get them to go away?!!!