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FleeBee Fri 02-Oct-09 12:55:57

AIBU to doss for an hour during the day. I have 2 DC aged 21 months and nearly 5 months. They both usually have a nap in the afternoon and I've recently got them to co-incide so I get a peaceful hour. In which I lie sit on the sofa, watch some rubbish telly, mess on the internet or chat to mum (or friend) on the phone.

DH reckons that hour should be put to use of houswork and he's calling me lazy. (Which is true, but it's not something I like to hear!!) I know that there is ironing, hoovering, dusting blah blah to be done, but I can't face it and my hour off means I can recharge and face the afternoon with my DC.

Should I pull my lazy finger out and get motivated??? (I know he has a lunch hour at work grrrr!!)

theDeadPirateRoberts Fri 02-Oct-09 12:57:15

YADNBU! Unless he's happy for you to have your break as soon as he walks in the door? No? Quel surprise!

rubyslippers Fri 02-Oct-09 12:57:35

threads like this are so depressing


you are working bloody hard - why on earth do you have to justify to your DH of all people that you need to re-charge your batteries

SixtyFootDoll Fri 02-Oct-09 12:58:53

and what does he do in his lunch hour at work?
Tell him to sod off.

kitbit Fri 02-Oct-09 13:00:28

If he asks if you had a break say no. But have one. Problem solved, and he's an arse

LaurieFairyCake Fri 02-Oct-09 13:01:15

I reckon you should stop justifying your day to dh.

In fact next time he asks smile serenely and tell him you wanked off all day as your skin was looking a bit peaky and you'd heard orgasms were good for the skin.

That'll shut him up.

MovingOutOfBlighty Fri 02-Oct-09 13:02:18

I have just put ds to bed. I am lying on the sofa with 'The Scarlet Pimpernel' on the TV with my laptop.

I intend to assume this position for 1 hour.
I would recommend you do the same.

dilemma456 Fri 02-Oct-09 13:03:59

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belgo Fri 02-Oct-09 13:04:40

YANBU. You need to have some time to yourself otherwise you'll go crazy. You shouldn't be a martyr to your family at the expensive of your own happiness.

Agree with Laurie, don't tell him what you do all day if he is going to judge you. He isn't your boss. Do you ask him to account for every moment of his time?

belgo Fri 02-Oct-09 13:05:54

As a SAHM for a few years, I always tried to make sure I got rest and time off during the day because evenings are just so hectic and I'm very often up during the night with one, two or three children.

theDeadPirateRoberts Fri 02-Oct-09 13:06:50

Does he do his share of the housework? Being that it's both of your house, and you're doing most if not all of the childcare?

theDeadPirateRoberts Fri 02-Oct-09 13:08:09

I like dilemma's idea grin

Oh, and can you arrange for a colleague to tip juice or youghurt onto his desk every two hours? [helpful]

vickiadele Fri 02-Oct-09 13:08:11

Im sure he gets a break at work, YANBU!

MovingOutOfBlighty Fri 02-Oct-09 13:08:15

Personally, I tend to whizz around for 15 mins doing something constructive, then mooch for an hour. Then I feel guilt free.

How about just squirting a load of Cillit Band around the bathroom so he can smell it and then he will think you are being Oh So Busy.

Sometimes I get a bit like your DH though when my Dh confesses that his job finished a little early and he went to the gym/haircut etc. All I can think is, 'and you could have been here to help at witching hour!!'. But then I bite my tongue and stop being so controlling blush

Elk Fri 02-Oct-09 13:10:04

Of course you should have a rest while your children are resting. Put your feet up have a cuppa and eat some chocolate while they can't see you.

I have been dossing since I dropped mine off at school this am.

ToddlersRFab Fri 02-Oct-09 13:14:45

Tell him to go and boil his head.... I bet he would be shattered doing just one day of your routine.

Enjoy your hour whilst you can - it won't last for ever.


opinionatedmother Fri 02-Oct-09 13:16:41


your DH is being V unreasonable. he is not your boss.

(YABU if you meant taking a hour off MNing grin)

I enjoy a very reasonable 2 hour naptime most days ...sometimes i sits and thinks..sometimes...i just sits.

if husband criticised me for this, he'd find himself residentially challenged.

Trikken Fri 02-Oct-09 13:29:22

Yanbu, childcare is physically and mentally hardwork. enjoy your peace and quiet! (big cup of coffee and cake also helps.)

YeahBut Fri 02-Oct-09 13:32:44

You see, my DH is far too fond of his bollocks to even think something like this around me.

mazzystartled Fri 02-Oct-09 13:33:51


Why does your dh think he has the right to tell you how to spend your day....or is he trying to wind you up?

It's called MATERNITY leave not HOUSEKEEPING leave.

herbgarden Fri 02-Oct-09 13:36:32

YANBU...I agree with the don't tell him what you do approach - you don't need to justify yourself to him and if he does specifically ask, tell him to sod off.

I've got 2 DC's - the older one doesn't sleep anymore but when he did I'd sit in front of the telly or surf the net for his 2 hour nap after I'd cleared up the lunch debris. Now DD sleeps, DS sits in front of the telly and I put my feet up !....DH would get a seriously short sharp shrift it he questioned what I did during my "lunch break"....

MiniMarmite Fri 02-Oct-09 13:40:56


I lie on the sofa for 2 hours if I can get away with it and I only have one one year old!

Same as a lunch hour (or two) in my book. All the childcare books say you should rest so you can always show him the relevent page!

flimflammum Fri 02-Oct-09 13:41:15

Of course YANBU.

LOL at 'residentially challenged', opinionatedmother grin

RealityIsAnAuntie Fri 02-Oct-09 13:43:38

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Firawla Fri 02-Oct-09 15:55:16

yanbu, he is bvu!!!!!
he also needs to remember that as well as lunch break, dh get weekends from work, annual leave etc, when do mum & wife ever normally get those breaks from the job of looking after kids and house? we never get a day off, 1 hr is definitely more than justified, and is not lazy

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