In brief, I am going through some personal difficulties, and am starting counselling tomorrow.
Seem to be losing my perspective on things but am troubled by these incidents from my younger years.
12 yrs old and my parents have some building work done by a builder known by my parents. His father came along and announced early on that I was 'special' and long after the work was done, visited us to bring me treats and presents. One day I was told he would like to take me to London to see a musical, stay in a hotel and go on a shopping trip.
I was excited and for some reason remember hoping we could go to woolworths so I could have a brand new set of pencil crayons.
The night before, my brother told me he was camping that weekend in the garden, and I thought this sounded like more fun, said I didn't want to go, and the trip was cancelled. I never saw the man again.
I was admittedly very naive. At about 17 I met a lad on the bus who asked me out. We had a date and at the end of it deciced I didn't want to see him again.
Later that evening, my Dad went to get some wood for the fire and found him in the woodshed. It transpired that the lad had a criminal record and was apparently trying to go 'straight' so my Dad invited him to live with us, which he did for 5/6 weeks. He assumed this meant we were an 'item' and pursued me with that thought, on one occassion threatening to rape me when I wouldn't sleep with him, although he didn't carry it outt. He used to sit outside the bathroom scratching on the door when I had a bath (which I started doing daily to escape him).
I subsequently found out his Record included GBH and ABH.
It all feels wrong and now I have DC's of my own I find this memories troubling, but because I am low, they keep popping up.
I was going to change my name but have decided to stick to the one I am known by.
Am I just hyper sensitive or are these bizarre things to do with your DD?
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In thinking that these were not normal parental decisions.
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TheMitsubishiWarrioress · 30/09/2009 15:12
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