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expecting a call from ds1 any time now...aibu to stick to NO

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TheLadyEvenstar Mon 28-Sep-09 15:13:05

ok ds1 was really showing off yesterday and the day before. I warned him both days if he carried on I would not be letting him do football training today. Well he did carry it on until he left for school this morning so aibu to say no when he calls and i know he will call to see if he can soft soap/change my mind.

WhereYouLeftIt Mon 28-Sep-09 15:15:24

YANBU - if you're not consistent then you are making a rod for your own back - he will argue every decision from then on because he will think he can change it. Stick to your guns!

IsItMeOr Mon 28-Sep-09 15:16:21

You would BU to NOT stick to NO. Be strong!

ChazsBarmyArmy Mon 28-Sep-09 15:16:33

Stick to your guns on this one, otherwise your authority will be shot.

Stay strong and/or don't answer the phone.

TheLadyEvenstar Mon 28-Sep-09 15:18:07

WYLI, long history of me giving in and now taking a stand....didn't think I was BU really.

OOppss he just called and said "hiya, you know I am not allowed to do football today, well can i do table tennis instead"

I just told him he needed to come home.

AMumInScotland Mon 28-Sep-09 15:18:55

YANBU - if you give way, then you will have no punishment to threaten him with the next time. Empty threats are a waste of your breath - you have to show him that you mean it.

TheLadyEvenstar Mon 28-Sep-09 15:20:13

I have told him to come home.....he not a happy bunny now..oh dear. he no like me as this tougherr mummy

AMumInScotland Mon 28-Sep-09 15:22:41

Well done - another fun activity wouldn't be much of a punishment. Cheeky beggar!

IsItMeOr Mon 28-Sep-09 15:26:49

Lol at tougherr - can't decide whether it sounds like a growl of authority, or slightly indecisive, but like it either way.

Well done on sticking to your guns.

thesecondcoming Mon 28-Sep-09 15:27:04

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groundhogs Mon 28-Sep-09 15:32:00

Good for you girl, stick to your guns - he'll take you seriously next time, then you'll know you did the right think.

The more he 'no-like' you this afternoon, the quicker he'll 'get it'

Oh,and secondcoming am just in total wonderment at 'woodcraft folk camping trip'... what WAS that?

IsItMeOr Mon 28-Sep-09 15:32:26

thesecondcoming - feel it is only fair for you to share more details about the "debacle" you mention if TheLady is to share hers...

mrsjammi Mon 28-Sep-09 15:33:31

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lorrycat Mon 28-Sep-09 15:34:01

I think you did the right thing. Our kids need to understand that when they do wrong there are consequences. Just remember that you're not doing it to spite him, but to teach him that sometimes we all need reined in a little.

thesecondcoming Mon 28-Sep-09 15:43:54

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FromGirders Mon 28-Sep-09 15:49:37

How on earth do children however large) anage to destroy a cow!!!shock

thesecondcoming Mon 28-Sep-09 15:51:23

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FromGirders Mon 28-Sep-09 15:53:05

Oh of course, I thought you meant the kids had directly destroyed the cow!
That's pretty serious though.

thesecondcoming Mon 28-Sep-09 15:55:06

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mrsjammi Mon 28-Sep-09 15:56:53

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TheLadyEvenstar Mon 28-Sep-09 15:58:54

Ok showing of.....Started with Saturday morning I went to a market and bought ds2 some stickle bricks for £3 did buy ds1 some dr who bits as well, but he had not seen them as I was putting them away for xmas. DS1 started moaning and ended up causing a row between sister, mum and I where I was told I was being unfair to him. Fast forward 2 hours when we were home and I asked him to load the dishwasher, am a believer that children should have chores, and clear the toys away which he and ds2 had finished playing with. Cue him start shouting at me and telling me i was unfair. I sent him to his room, had a friend here so that helped me stay calm lol. DP came home from work at about 5 and started dinner (was his turn) asked ds1 to load dishwasher as he still hadn't done it.

When dinner was ready he started moaning because it was not what he wanted, he apparently likes stuffing and chicken but not when you have stuffed chicken breast hmm

8.30 he was asked to go to his room and out of my way as i was beginning to lose patience and he started screaming shouting crying etc until 11.10pm. He got up sunday and refused to do anything i asked him, dp was at work and I ended up walking out with ds2 and walking streets for 1 hr 20 minutes to calm down after he had been screaming at me and telling me i was a rubbish mum etc. My only crime was asking him to load the dishwasher from breakfast. Then last night he refused to go to bed shouting etc until gone 10pm. Hence reason i told him he was not doing football today. The End.

mrsjammi Mon 28-Sep-09 16:01:13

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mrsjammi Mon 28-Sep-09 16:02:54

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TheLadyEvenstar Mon 28-Sep-09 16:04:33

MrsJammi, it drives me mnad too. They thought i was being unfair because i had bought ds2 (2yrs) stickle bricks and they had not seen what I had bought ds1.

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