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fandango75 Fri 25-Sep-09 12:53:59

i am feeling like a crap mum and am terribly upset at the moment and crying. Poor boy is teething badly but am not coping with the constant crying and night waking and i feel irritated by it all and now feel horrid and so guilty

stickylittlefingers Fri 25-Sep-09 12:55:29

it doesn't sound like you are being crap at all, just having a hard time of it. How old is your ds?

diddl Fri 25-Sep-09 12:56:42

Is he sleeping at all at a time when you also can?

echofalls Fri 25-Sep-09 12:56:58

First thing is you are not a crap mum at all. Having a teething baby is not the best of fun, but it will pass. Is there anyone who can take the wee one for a couple of hours so you can get a sleep? You are probably just exhausted.

jimblejambles Fri 25-Sep-09 12:57:06

Crying babies are very hard to cope with. It doesn't make you a crap mum. How old is he?

Rantagonist Fri 25-Sep-09 12:57:09

You could try the 'parenting' section. Not got any advice to give on the info you've given but you can have a hug <<hug>> smile

stickylittlefingers Fri 25-Sep-09 13:01:04

you are allowed to feel irritated - kids are a joy and everything but they do kind of crap up your life as well - and lack of sleep can make the most perfect saint into a growling monster. It's one of the joys of this forum to be able to come on and say - it's all horrible and I can't cope and then have some very sensible people remind you that you can, and you pick up and carry on again.

The great things with the really little ones is that often as you think you can't bear it any more, it stops. And they think of something else instead grin

fandango75 Fri 25-Sep-09 13:01:09

he is 8 months old and has 6 teeth now and each one takes weeks to come through (started at 12 weeks old) i just feel upset that i get irritated and cross with the crying - its bnecasue i am tired as he wakes in the night with his teeth and just want a break. i go back to work soon and feel like shite and wonder how on earth i will cope. i cant seem to stop crying i guess this is becasue i am tired. thank you

stickylittlefingers Fri 25-Sep-09 13:02:48

It is because you are tired... have you tried searching the site for people's teething remedies? How soon do you go back to work?

fandango75 Fri 25-Sep-09 13:02:56

i dont get cross with him nby the way just generally bit snappy with DH then think am super mean and he is my babe and nothing should irritate me blush

fandango75 Fri 25-Sep-09 13:03:51

i have tried everything - literlly nopthing seems to work, we resorted to Calpol and even that doesnt seem to help that much. i go back in 2 weeks

stickylittlefingers Fri 25-Sep-09 13:07:30

Well, the teeth will all come through eventually. Do you and DH share the getting up at night?

One thing to be said for being back at work is that (unless you work in a nursery of course!) there tend not to be any crying babies around. Def a case of a change being as good as a rest. It's also amazing how much the tiredness doesn't affect you once you're used to broken nights. I wouldn't worry unduly til you've tried it.

Is there someone can give you a bit of a break? Or just the usual remedy (that helped me a lot) of taking dc out for a walk and blow away the cobwebs a bit.

JollyBear Fri 25-Sep-09 13:12:54

Sorry to hear you are feeling so down. Dentinox gel is good although I find it hard to apply now my DD has teeth (she bites!). Cold teething rings and things like cucumber can help a bit.

Have you joined a MN post-natal group? I find it really reassuring to chat to people who have babies the same age. What month was your DS born in?

BertieBotts Fri 25-Sep-09 13:16:48

You can give calpol and baby ibuprofen (calprofen/nurofen for children/shop's own brand) together, e.g. calpol at 8pm, ibuprofen at 10pm, calpol at 12pm, ibuprofen at 2am. As long as you wait 4 hours between each dose of the same medicine. Don't feel guilty for giving medication - he has pain, you are numbing it And this comes from me who never takes painkillers herself and was adamant a small bottle of calpol would last as long as possible... we are on the second bottle by 11 months grin

fandango75 Fri 25-Sep-09 13:20:02

yes thank you for your help feeling better mush dash crying has resumed hoorah horrah wink

chubbleigh Fri 25-Sep-09 13:26:57

Bertie is right about giving both if the pain won't go away. Bertie is right about overlapping the doses but if you are in the least bit not sure ask a pharmacist for advice. Write down what you have given, it is hard to remember when you have done it if you are half asleep and the times are quite important.

Firawla Fri 25-Sep-09 14:10:48

have you tried the powders? i found them better after some teeth had come through, and gels better in the beginning when no teeth were through yet
your not a crap mum, noone has unlimited patience and im sure everyone gets fed up in these situations sometimes, maybe some just do not admit it. anyway i find the same, if little one is in v irritable mood for teething or whatever reason, you end up catching that irritible mood off them especially if they are like that for a stretch at a time. its easy to be grin when they are in a good mood, happily playing, sleeping & eating properly. it wont last forever & u will get through it. i am looking forward to the day mine has all his teeth

carocaro Fri 25-Sep-09 14:25:52

((((Hugs)))))))))))

You are NOT A CRAP MUM.

A teething baby is hard work, and the crying is so hard to take, we have all felt the same way at some point, you are not alone in the way you feel.

Lack of sleep is the killer, good advice here from the ladies.

Can you at least look forward to a glass of wine and Strictly Come Dancing later with a bog packet of crisps whilst you other half takes over?

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