Okay, so I have two ds. 4 and 16 months. Up untill last week I just worked 8 hours over Saturday and Sunday in a busy phone shop.
Last week I started a new job and am in training at the minute, it's quite intense and is 5 till 10pm Monday to Friday. On top of this I'm still workng my weekend job till the end of October.
The problem is, I am soooo tired! Ds's get up at 7 every morning. I manage a half hour sit down at about one when ds1 is at nursery and ds2 is napping. I use this time for my lunch and then get the house work done.then when ds1 gets home it's a mad rush to get the boys in to the car and get to work to do a swap with dp in the car park. (we work at the same company, he has a much higher job though)
when I come home dp has fed the boys, possibly (if lucky) bathed one of them, and put them to bed. End of. No dishes done, washing left in machine that I'd popped on earlier before I left, clothes lying around, and bath water and toys still in bath.
By now I'm so tired to deal with it, so I have to do it all in the morning.
By the morning I feel like the living dead, and he wants sex at like 6.45! So he gets huffy when I say no, and god forbid if I say I'm tired, cause he's always so much more tired! It's like he won't accept I'm struggling with everything. And if I point out anything he snaps that my two jobs together don't make up a full time job.
At weekends if I say I want a lie in, he huffs and puffs and is up every 5 minutes seeing if I'm getting up yet. If the situation is reversed I leave him to sleep till hAlf 10 cause then I need to get ready for work.
Everyone else understands I must be tired and ask how I'm coping, but to dp, it's a big compitition.
I should say I've been to the dr before about my tiredness, because it's so bad, but he basicly sent me on my way because I had ds2 with me and he was chatting so dr said he couldn't concentrate and to leave ds2 at home next time! I complained, but they sided with the dr......
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Pinkmist · 24/09/2009 08:56
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