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AIBU?

to think that some parents are just lazy and inconsiderate?

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LentilsRMe · 21/09/2009 21:34

We went for tea yesterday at Wagamamas.

There was a family behind us, including 2 children - about 2 and 4 maybe.

I looked round after they had left and under the table they had left food, crayons, paper and two empty juice cartons.

I was a bit that they just left without even picking this all up off the floor.

Surely I am NBU?

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Hando · 21/09/2009 21:36

Is Wagamamas a restaurant?

If so then YABU. I wouldn't get under a table and pick up all the bits of food that children had inevitably dropped. I pay to eat out so I don't have to do the tidying up afterwards.

Did you scrape your plates and wash up afterwards?

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cookielove · 21/09/2009 21:36

oooh i left loads of wrapping paper on the floor, when i had birthday celebrations at wagamama's i shall hang my head in shame but we did recieve really poor service

however would not expect the parents to pick up the food

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cookielove · 21/09/2009 21:37

Hando - Wagamamas is the best resturant

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SixtyFootDoll · 21/09/2009 21:38

I might have picked up the crayons, but the other stuff is what happens whwn families eat out.
Thats why you PAY

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janeite · 21/09/2009 21:40

I would have picked it up. No child should be allowed by their parents to throw juice cartons on the floor - whether they are paying to be there or not.

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LentilsRMe · 21/09/2009 21:42

Blimey maybe I need to lower my standards! I really did not think I was BU.

Hando - no food left to scrape - too yummy! but we certainly cleaned the food off the floor that DD had dropped.

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LentilsRMe · 21/09/2009 21:43

janeite - phew. I agree - you wouldn't let them do it at home, height of bad manners to do it out where someone else has to pick it up.

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Meglet · 21/09/2009 21:43

I often take the dc's (2.10& 1) to Wagamamas and I always pick up the debris they chuck on the floor.

We go there so often the staff are really sweet and always say they don't mind picking it up, especially when it's quiet, but I cannot just leave pile of noodles on the floor and saunter out.

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GirlsAreLOud · 21/09/2009 21:44

I got told off for trying to pick all the mess up off the floor in Cafe Rouge

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GirlsAreLOud · 21/09/2009 21:44

To clarify, it was mess from my DD, not just random mess...

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alwayslookingforanswers · 21/09/2009 21:45

I'd have picked up the crayons, paper and cartons and put them on the table, but I wouldn't have picked up the food.

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ElieRM · 21/09/2009 21:46

Kids make a mess, and if it's a family restaraunt they'll be used to it. I would've picked up the worst and put it on the table but I imagine the people that work there are used to it.

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Meglet · 21/09/2009 21:46

LOL at thought of girlsareloud having a mad cleaning frenzy in cafe Rouge.

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HopeForTheBestExpectTheWorst · 21/09/2009 21:46

If I accidentally drop something on the floor at a restaurant, I pick it up, and I would do the same for my ds. Anything else would be rather disgusting. I pay for the food and yes, for someone else to clear and wash the plates, but I don't pay for the "privilege" of behaving in a way which would be unacceptable in my own home.

So, no, YANBU, at all.

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llareggub · 21/09/2009 21:52

I've never been to Wagamamas but I'm with the OP. I think it is highly inconsiderate to leave the sort of mess that children make. I always give high chairs a quick once over with baby wipes and pick up any crap that has fallen on the floor.

I worked as a waitress through sixth-form and university and there is a huge difference between reasonable mess and unreasonable mess.

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groundhogs · 21/09/2009 21:54

Echoing the YANBU.

Eating out as a family is not an excuse to turn it into a chimps tea party.

I can't BEAR to see people,clearly with no pride in themselves, leave a table in that kind of state. IMHO if anyone thinks that to leave a public place like that is acceptable, they ought to stick to their correct level, somewhere with troughs ideally.

I've seen it on planes too, many times, the business class section. If I were ever minted enought to be flying up the front of the plane, and had to share it with animals that left it in that state, strongly worded letters would have to be written.

Jeez, some people...

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hatesponge · 21/09/2009 22:03

There's no way I'd pick food up from the floor, though I would pick up the other stuff & encourage my DC to do so as well.

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squilly · 21/09/2009 22:06

I understand that keeping 2 small children under 5 under control in a restaurant is not easy and spillage is inevitable.

However, leaving behind colouring sheets and juice cartons on the floor is inexcusable.

Eating out isn't an excuse to become a slob. Surely we giver our kids rules to follow at home so they can help make our lives easier. Why should we be so arrogant as to assume they shouldn't have the same consideration for restaurant staff?

YANBU to think the family were out of order. It's just slobbish, yobbish behaviour.

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Caz10 · 21/09/2009 22:07

Why on earth not hatesponge?

I have a 22mth old dd - we always have a mess on the floor under her chair and surrounding areas! Depending on the extent of it, I pick it up with baby wipes and either put it on a finished plate, or sometimes even fill a nappy bag with random bits of rubbish and find a bin for it.

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Caz10 · 21/09/2009 22:07

Why on earth not hatesponge?

I have a 22mth old dd - we always have a mess on the floor under her chair and surrounding areas! Depending on the extent of it, I pick it up with baby wipes and either put it on a finished plate, or sometimes even fill a nappy bag with random bits of rubbish and find a bin for it.

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Hulababy · 21/09/2009 22:07

I would have picked up crayons, paper and juice cartons.

The food depends on what we are talking about. A few bits - I'd leave. Loads of big pieces -- I'd use a napkin and pick up the worst. I have done this from the table also.

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Caz10 · 21/09/2009 22:07

ooops

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winnybella · 21/09/2009 22:10

YANBU.
I wouldn't scrape food off the floor but certainly wouldn't let my dcs throw juice cartons on the floor. If dcs were v. little, I would just pick them up for them.
The same goes for empty popcorn bags left on the floor in the cinema. Yes, someone will come and clean it, but it's just an impolite thing to do.

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llareggub · 21/09/2009 22:10

The other thing I learned as a waitress is that there is a direct correlation between the amount of mess left by a family and the size of the tip. Much mess usually equals miserly or no tip.

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WhereYouLeftIt · 21/09/2009 22:11

YANBU - I would be embarrassed to leave that amount of debris in my wake. I wouldn't allow juice cartons left on the floor in my house, why would I allow it in a restaurant?

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