DS has been invited to a joint birthday party for two sets of siblings. The invite has come from one set who we know well and I will be buying them both presents. We do know the other two, but not very well. Would it be bad form not to buy them presents? Last year the elder of each pair had a joint party and I did buy them both a present, but now the younger siblibgs have been added to the equation, it seems a bit much to buy four presents.
we have been invited to several joint parties I give a gift to both if we know both well equally however f sibs I would give a gift to the child my child is friends with IYSWIM plus proabably a token gift/card to the other
just had a joint birthday party,luckily it was a huge amount of children so hard to say who did and didnt get bought for(60 kiddies)and yes on the whole most bought for both but a few didnt, and all i will say is be ready for the childrens comments as they are blatantly honest, ie my child asked one parent where was the other childs present when she was given hers ,much to the discomfort of the parent
No one expects you to get 4 presents. My DD's just shared a birthday party with a friend, they each invited certain people and mostly the guests brought a present for the girl who invited them. There were a couple who brought a present for the other girl also, something small, like sweets or pound shop thing.
We've just had an invite to a joint party. One of the child's names was underlined, and ther wa a note from the mums suggesting that we only buy a present for the underlined child. I guess they've worked it out between them to make sure it's an even split. I think it's a good idea as it takes away my guilt.
I sometimes have joint parties for my Dds, but I would never expect anyone to buy for both. Infact, I only think people to buy for the child who invited them. I'd just send a card for everyone else.
Most joint parties I have gone to have managed the present giving situation by getting everyone to put the presents on a table, and then they are sorted out later. Then no awkward who has /has not got a present moment. Problem solved!
Agree with other posters that presents for the ones you know well are appropriate and cards for the others - no-one would expect you to buy 4 presents.
Up till now, our twins have had joint parties, and as they are boy / girl, have separate friends (which helps), so we word the invitations like this, e.g: "DT1 invites you to her joint party with DT2". That way I hope it would be clear that since DT1 is doing the inviting, one present will be just great, and DT2 would not expect a present. It seems to work OK at the moment but it's taken a long time to work this all out, as when they were younger they did have overlapping friends and it was a bit of an etiquette minefield!!
Just buy for the ones you know. Dd and ds often have joint birthday parties as their birthdays are so close - they always get too many presents. I would be horrified if everyone bought for both of them. I agree it is nice to have a few presents to open, but beyond a certain number they just don't appreciate them. Whenever we have invited lots of children it is to have a jolly party - certainly not to have a huge pile of presents. Your instinct is right and you are certainly not a miserable stinge!
This reminds me of a party my son went to a couple of years ago, it was a joint one being shared by 3 children - all from the same family (siblings).
Our invitation only came from one of the children, so we bought one present.
I was taking two other friends to the party, when I went to pick up the first friend, he had two presents - I questioned this to the mum (as I was worried I only had one) and she said the invitation was from 2 of the siblings - anyway, when I went to pick up the third child I was taking, (you know where this is going don't you ) yes, she had three presents as the invitation was from all three of the children.
I have co-hosted joint parties for my DS and one of his best friends. Many of the guests were friends of both boys and brought two presents. A couple of invitees knew only one boy and only brought a present for that boy. I would have been very surprised (and a bit embarrassed) has one of these invitees brought two.