Im so angry at him. He is useless at the best of times despite proclaiming to everyone that his DS is the most important thing in the world to him. We seperated a year ago and are currently divorcing. He lives an hour away now, and this month is actually the first time he has had DS overnight, until aug contact has been very sporadic. He was meant to have DS this weekend, but cancelled as he said he was ill. Im ill today, really ill.. cant manage on my own ill. I text him and ask him if he can help. He didnt reply then text me back to take DS to his mothers. His mother lives 25 min drive away, im too ill to drive and she hasnt spoken to me since we seperated. Im angry at his lack of responsibility, he doesnt care about DS at all, unless it is when he wants too. I feel so bad for DS as he deserves more.
Yes I think some men seem to forget they are divorcing the wife not the kids
Ultimately it will be his loss if he doesn't get his act together, I had this exact same problem with my dad when he and my mum split up, and it was incredibly hard on us. My brothers now have not spoken to him since my wedding, and even then it was just to say good morning, and they hadn't seen him for at least 10 years before that. I do have a relationship with him but frankly it was an uphill struggle.
I don't know what to suggest except be there for your DS
[sad} I hope you're feeling a bit better - it's so grim to be on your own and feeling poorly.
It's no consolation to know you're not alone, but you're not, my ex-dh is an utter, utter nightmare and is sworn to try and destroy me because I had the cheek not just to leave him but to survive leaving him..
I hope you have some friends or family around you that can help take the pressure off a bit - I don't know what I'd do without mine to be honest. Take care of yourself and your lovely DS. xMad