Hey Guys
Please be honest as the situation is slowly driving me crazy!
Okay so I'm currently pregnant with my new DP and have a DD who is 7 from a previous relationship - DD's father and I split up in 2006. Access has always been given to him and a little while into the separation he decided that he was able to look after her one night and roughly half the day. Over the last 3 and a bit years, he has only looked after for more than one night on 2 occasions which a big deal was made of.
Sometimes he can be reasonable and sometimes I ask him if he can have her on a Saturday night instead of a Friday and he agrees. He agreed that he could look after her next Saturday as I have some work on in the evening but at the weekend turnt around and said that he was going back to the agreement of only looking after her on Fridays and this is not debatable as he feel's she needs more stability and he won't look after her ever on a different night or for more than one night.
I think he behaves this way because he likes to still be able to have a little bit of control over me.
I really struggle for babysitters and don't want to have to ask DP ALL the time or one of the only friends who is able to.
He also doesn't seem to be interested in her education and she constantly comes back to me with not having her hair brushed from the previous morning, not brushing her teeth and telling me all the junk food she has had - I know these aren't big issues but on top of always being criticised that I am a bad parent and that she lacks stability I feel it's a bit of a kick in the teeth as it were!
Would love to hear your opinions.
Jules
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to expect ex partner to be somewhat flexible about looking after DD? (Need some honest advice!)
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MusicalMummyJules · 21/09/2009 12:02
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