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What do you mean by "told off"?

what was the name? i tell people i don't like bengi( sounds like a dogs name!) but you can shorten benjamin to ben

Was she "told off" or simply asked not to shorten the name?

Don't do anything, carry on as normal, is your 12 yr sensitive atm? do girls get a bit hormonal around that age? i wouldnt say it was something to get upset about, i think stopping your dd from visiting is over reacting

The name is Isabelle and she called her Izzy. My SIL from what i can gather said her name is Isabelle not Izzy. My DD said she was quite stern. I am not going to fall out with her it is not worth it perhaps she was having a bad day?

You probably are being a bit unreasonable to put a stop to the visits.

Whether you are being unreasonable to object to the aunt telling off your dd depends how it was done. Maybe your dd is being oversensitive, maybe your SIL was being touchy - need more details to unravel that one.

(I got really told off by my mother for shortening my sister's name and was very upset - and we were all adults! So I do sympathise with dd even if she's being a bit oversensitive, being told off for something that wasn't ill-intentioned can be upsetting.)

Anyway, your SIL is fighting a losing battle on that one, people will call her Izzy - even if SIL manages to frighten everyone off for now, once she goes to school...

sorry, but 12 year old girls are often the biggest drama queens going. She was probably told that his name is x, not y and I don't want it shortened.

I would honestly make her go visit- by hiding she's not doing herslef any favours.

Yeah perhaps my DD is being oversensitive. I am not putting a stop to the visits for good just for a week. I think the shortening of the name just slipped out when they were playing. I am going to put it down to a hormonal DD and a stressed out young mum with 2 children under the age of 2. Thanks.

Stopping visits is daft.

Carry on as normal.

Your SIL could have let it go but didn't so just use the right name in future.

Yeah going to have to tell my DD not to shorten either names. Think before she speaks. She will get over it and so will my SIL

oh god your dd needs to grow some balls

I wouldn´t put a stop to visits.

If your SIL doesn´t want the name shortened, then she´s entitled to say so, although she may have gone about it wrongly.

I hate Izzy as it is!

Has anyone else ever shortened the name?

Well like the previous posts have said she is a 12 yr old hormonal child and at that age these sort of things they take to heart NOAHDEAR and no my DD cannot grow balls. No need for you comment really not helpful in the slightest. The others have made good comments and constructive comments.

'To upset a 12 year old is not on.'
You're not serious.

I presume she has been told off at school
so fgs tell her" lifes like that"

Sorry, pressed post too fast.

Agree with others about over-reactions all over the place.

Yep i get my name shortened all the time and never bothers me. My DD is called Georgia and gets shortened to George a lot it does not bother me or her in the slightest. My sons name is shortened to Ade or AA for and my youngest shortened to Kiki. They will get called these in school and workplace anyway.

Carry on as usual I say.
Though I can't believe people get cross if their pfb's name gets shortened.

Sorry diddl i mis-read the last comment. Yes her dad shortens her name to 'IZ'

So she wasn't "told off" at all then. She was simply told that her name isn't x it is y. Sounds perfectly reasonable to me and I think your dd, and you, are overreacting.

I think she was probably just told 'don't call xyz 'x' and she was upset by that request.

I've said to children my dds name is Blahblah, not blah. I just thought, some 7 year old doesn't get to choose my daughter's name! Didn't mean to upset the child though.

YABU,

No need to be rude to your dd but by the sounds of things everyones over-reacting,

I HATE people shortening my childrens names, lola gets called Lo i mean WTF thats just plain pointless and lazy!!!