I really am torn about this.
On the one hand, I work in a prison which actively encourages visits and I know the good they can do with the inmate so am all for visits.
BUT the inmate in question is nearly 21 and in Reading YOI. The person visiting him is my 18 year old SIL and their 2 1/2 year old son, which is fine, she is an adult after all. The fact that he beat her to a pulp more than once is clearly by the by to her but enabling him to see his son is perhaps her being very decent, I dont know. As I said she is an adult so its not my place to complain.
However today we hear that she wants to take her and DHs 11 year old brother in to see the inmate too. I find this a bit disturbing as the inmate has very severe issues and is a lifer in prison for stabbing someone he thought was dating SIL when they had broken up in a jealous rage. BIL says he wants to see inmate because he "wants to" with no actual reasons cited, although I understand if he doesnt want to share this with them. DH is very concerned and doesnt want him to go. MIL is a usless mother at the best of times and has merely said she doesnt understand why he wants to go but she doesnt want her 9 year old daughter to go. The reasons behind this likely being that she doesnt get on with BIL and he goes into violent rages when he doesnt get his way, so she's giving in for the quiet life. His father (or at least the man everyone believes to be his father...sigh...) has no opinion whatsoever beyond "well, its his choice".
This whole thing has made my blood boil; I am no against prisoners being rehabilitated and visits can help with this; its more the callous attitude of people who supposedly love him, letting BIL go into an enviroment which is potentially dangerous. I know visits are a generally safe time within the prison, but I also know young offenders are the most volatile of all inmates, often with fewer regards of the result of their actions. DH as I've said is furious but feels totally impotent as we can do nothing more than share our opinion. We have done this (in a civil manner I hasten to add!) and already we have become the bad guys in this situation.
Sigh, needed to vent really, but what do you all think? AIBU?
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LittleWhiteWolf · 19/09/2009 20:19
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