To be FUMING with dh?

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

I have to go and pick my parents up from Luton airport this afternoon, and it's much easier (because of room in the car etc) if it's just me and dd, rather than me and dd and ds. So dh promised to take ds to London to visit the Natural History Museum and, "Look for dinosaurs." Ds was absolutely thrilled, and has been very excited all of yesterday.

I had a bad night with dd, and so dh got up with the dc at half 7 this morning (hardly the middle of the night) so I could have an extra hour of sleep. He brought them back up, both crying, with dd needing fed (she is bf, but I don't think she's had any breakfast at all) both still in their pyjamas, no attempt to get ready at all.

Dd has gone for a nap, and dh has crashed out in bed with her. I've got ds dressed and packed the nappy bag, then took dh a cup of tea and told him ds is ready to go (ds by this time nearly hysterical with excitement), dh promises he'll get up, 15 minutes passes, I go back upstairs, hiss in dh's ear that his son is downstairs, ready to go on the day trip that his daddy promised him, dh says he'll get up. Another ten minutes passes, I go back upstairs, kick dh in the arse, tell him to get his arse downstairs and tell ds he'll be going soon, dh promises he'll be down soon.

That was half an hour ago. I'm running out of things to tell ds/distract him with. Ds is going to be devastated if they don't go, I can't take him to look for dinosaurs, the best I can do is a long trip in the car to Luton fecking Airport. What the fuck do I do?

[GentleOtter]

A large bucket of cold water swiftly applied to the slumbering heap ought to do the trick.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Dd is next to him, otherwise I would be up there with the ice bucket right fucking now, believe me.

[DoingTheBestICan]

Send you ds up to climb all over dh in bed,that normally works.

Or an ice cold flannel dropped onto dhs face.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Ds is two and a half, by the way, and quite bright enough to understand that daddy has let him down.

[francagoestohollywood]

That's very annoying. If I were you I'd tell ds go and wake daddy up. My ds can be very convincing ...

[Rindercella]

What time do you need to be out of the house by? When did your DH say he would be taking DS out? At the moment you're assuming the worst, but it may not be that bad...your DH sounds like he is still intending to go out with DS, but is knackered. I'd still be bloody annoyed though - it's 10.30 in the morning!

[GentleOtter]

Is he up yet? Try a cup of cold water on his nethers. Remove dd first.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

I don't want ds landing on dd.

I could move her to a safe distance and then release ds, but she has been sleeping so badly lately, if she wakes up I think I might cry.

Ds distracted with Pocoyo DVD at the moment, will give it one more try to wake dh up then put above plan into action. Dd will just have to suck it up - she can sleep in the car this afternoon on the way to the airport.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

I don't need to be out the house till half 12 ish, but if ds and dh want any time in London at all (takes half an hour or so to get into town) then they need to be leaving soon.

No idea why dh would be tired - he had a lovely night's sleep, it was me who was up with the baby all fucking night, not him.

[itsmeolord]

YABU, I assume you don't live a million miles away from train/tube/bus to museum.

Get yourself and dd ready, plonk ds in bedroom with dh and let them get on with it.
Even if he leaves at lunchtime they could still have a lovely day.

[LittleMissMummy]

what an arse! you were nice enough to bring him a cup of tea to wake up to as well ! just try and pull the covers off him without waking your dd and put a soaking wet cloth over his face or something ? hope he wakes up soon, by the sounds of it your ds would be devastated if he doesnt go

[GentleOtter]

Could they look for dinosaurs a bit closer to home rather than go in to London? I was thinking of local parks or the nearest town to buy a dinosaur.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Ds is released. He legged it up the stairs shouting, "Mama I'm waking daddy up!"

Dh is now shouting at ds. I feel like kicking him in the nuts.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Gentle - dh promised a trip on the train as part of the treat.

[GentleOtter]

If ds scrambles all over his dad then he is guaranteed to receive a kick in the nuts. These things happen.

[LittleMissMummy]

I dont think her ds should be let down like that just because the op's dh is too lazy to get out of bed! Like she said, he slept right through while she was up with the baby plus 7.30 is a reasonable time to be up - without having to go back to sleep!

I don't think buying a dinosaur would be the same as going to the natural history museum.

[Rindercella]

Really sorry UD, I know it must be really annoying, but really, how long does a 2.5 year old boy need to be in central London for? If they leave at midday, they'll get to the NHM in plenty of time for a good old walk around looking at dinosuars.

I agree with itsme, get yourself and DD sorted out, and leave your DH to get on with DS - on the assumption that he is going to do the right thing. Unless he has history of letting DS down of course - in which case, I will personally come round and throw that bucket of water over him!

[GentleOtter]

I agree LittleMissMummy, especially if he has promised. It is infuriating.

[TAFKAtheUrbanDryad]

Dh up and in the shower. Ds still upstairs badgering him.

I've said I'll drive them to the Tube station, so dh doesn't even need to worry about getting the bus. Aren't I great? Of course, if dh was even halfway sensible/competent I wouldn't fucking need to be.

[bronze]

"
Dh is now shouting at ds. I feel like kicking him in the nuts."

I hate it when they do this as its not fair on the child (speaks the voice of experience. Thsi is why I don't dare send my children in because he ends up telling them off which is just not fair

Hope your ds gets his lovely day out

[SomeGuy]

My parents' idea of a day out starts at about 1:30pm. We ourselves never get anywhere before midday. Nothing wrong with it IMO - by 4:30pm most people have got home.

What was the point at getting there at opening time if you can't last the day?

[Hando]

Personally I can't see what all the fuss was about. If dd and dh were asleep upstairs, ds was watching a dvd and you didn't have to leave til half one then why such a stress for him to be up and ready so early?

We also live 1/2 hr from central London and have often left it til 1 or 2 int he afternoon to go and spend a few hours in the museums. Plenty of time for the little ones.

[Morloth]

We often don't leave until Midday, what was the hurry?

[muggglewump]

Isn't a couple of hours long enough for a two year old in a museum?

I'm not a morning person, and when DD was that age we'd regularly leave at lunchtime for a 'day' out, as getting there at 1, a couple of hours to look around and getting home for 4 was fine.

Of course if he didn't take your DS at all, that's different, but it didn't seem unreasonable from the times you've given.