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to not have to look at page 3 photos in work

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JackDonaughey Fri 18-Sep-09 10:24:41

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preciouslillywhite Fri 18-Sep-09 10:25:57

You're kidding!!

...aren't you??hmm

ApplePieAndIceCream Fri 18-Sep-09 10:31:11

I dont really see a problem myself, only a pair of boobs, not like its full on porn...why does it bother you so much?

LittleHarrysMum Fri 18-Sep-09 10:36:22

You should see some of the stuff that's on the walls in my factory! Makes your toes curl!!

I just ignore it.

JackDonaughey Fri 18-Sep-09 10:37:00

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JackDonaughey Fri 18-Sep-09 10:38:20

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Bleh Fri 18-Sep-09 10:42:55

Start bringing in pictures of naked hunks and putting them all over your desk, and then coming out with comments like "ah, if only all men looked like this. Sadly, most don't make the grade and are just fat old uggos" [meaningful glance at manager]

MichKit Fri 18-Sep-09 10:47:29

YANBU, it makes for extremely uncomfortable working conditions. Have a read through this, its strictly not what you are looking for, but interesting. I just read it on the way to work this morning.

slug Fri 18-Sep-09 10:48:10

This sort of thing is sexual harassment and you shouldn't have to put up with it in a work setting. Drop that term into the conversation next time you object.

slug Fri 18-Sep-09 10:50:08

Look here for advice on his behaviour.

StayFrosty Fri 18-Sep-09 10:51:26

yanbu at all, it is harassment like slug says. Apart from anything else it is completely unprofessional to be looking at tits in work - if he was doing it via the internet he would most likely have been flagged up by the IT bods and bollocked by now.

CommonNortherner Fri 18-Sep-09 10:52:02

YANBU! Definitely not! Why should sexual things be brought into work anyway? Just because it's in a "news"paper and is everywhere doesn't make it right or acceptable. It's for purely titillation purposes... surely that has no place in a work environment, never mind trying to get the OP to collude in the objectification of her own gender.

mosschops30 Fri 18-Sep-09 10:54:59

Lol since when has page 3 been 'sexual' fgs. When I was young (80's) most boys I knew had a pic of Sam Fox or Linda Lusardi on their bedroom wall.
I think youre being a bit precious.
Its not as if he's watching porno's on his lap top and then skipping off to the toilets for a quick tug is it? Its just Page 3!!

RumourOfAHurricane Fri 18-Sep-09 10:57:08

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StayFrosty Fri 18-Sep-09 11:00:29

pmsl at page 3 not being sexual hmm

MichKit Fri 18-Sep-09 11:01:28

It all starts with Page 3 hmm

mosschops30 Fri 18-Sep-09 11:02:37

hmm frosty I know that sounded a bit hmm when I read it back, but what I meant was its not exactly offensive, degrading material. I find it a bit childish really.

preciouslillywhite Fri 18-Sep-09 11:03:42

Am I being a twat??

was sure this one was a troll/lazy journalist type...

Have so much to learn blush

JackDonaughey Fri 18-Sep-09 11:17:43

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charitygirl Fri 18-Sep-09 11:26:22

ASk the manager for a meeting, tell him that you find the P3 discussions inappropriate and uncomfortable, that you are arware this would falls into sexual harrassment classifications and thast you would likre it to stop.

Note with HR that you have done this, ideally. No need to make a big deal out of it at this stage - you've asked him to stop doing something at work that is totally unrelated to work and which makes you feel uncomfortable. If he stops, all well and good.

I could go into detail about why this is so ut of order but its not relevant - HR would know you are within your rights so would come down harder on him than you if it ever came to anything serious. BUt softly softly first!

charitygirl Fri 18-Sep-09 11:26:49

Sorry for typos...

Rebeccadiamond Fri 18-Sep-09 11:31:45

I don't think it would bother me especially, I've been in male dominated environments where there has been this sort of banter and I've never really minded. It's only a pair of breasts. It sounds as if this chap is rather sexually inadequate and childish. He probably isn't getting much. Technically you could probably go to HR because it might count as sexual harrassment, but is it worth the disruption and resentment it would cause? Plus, if you complain about something minor like this you might be taken less seriously if you then need to complain about more major like bullying or being unreasonably overlooked for promotion, because you will be seen as the sort of person who complains about petty matters. YANBU to find it a bit irritating though

lal123 Fri 18-Sep-09 11:38:03

It would bother me as I do find it degrading and offensive. I find it sad that we are so used to this sexualisation of women that we don't see it as an issue any more. I don't think it is a petty issue - I think it says a lot about the lack of respect that this workplace shows to women.

slug Fri 18-Sep-09 13:29:35

It's a bit like the definition of racial harassment. If you think it is sexual harassment then it is sexual harassment. Your boss needs to be told on no uncertain terms that it makes you uncomfortable. Charity Girl has the right words, however difficult, you need to use them.

OrmIrian Fri 18-Sep-09 13:33:16

YANBU. Inappropriate in a work environment.

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