I'm going to offer no opinion on this beyond saying that I couldn't do it personally.
I spoke to someone today whose one year old child spent 4 months with her grandparents, overseas. I was because it seems incredible that someone could do that. AFAIK there was no underlying reason - all parties were happy with the arrangement.
Was IBU to be flabberghasted? If everyone's happy then fair enough, but it's a bit, er, unusual, isn't it?
I didn't pass comment on it - none of my business obviously - but I did wonder what MN's take was.
I'm not frowning, or shaking my head. I'm really not. This was totally fine for the family concerned, this woman was perfectly happy about it and her child is also obviously unscathed. I just hadn't even considered an idea like this and don't know anyone who's done anything similar so wondered if it was just my sheltered life or if it really is out of the ordinary.
I know a few families that have done this, there was definitely a period of re-adjustment when the child moved back in with the parents permanently, but on the whole it seemed to work well. There also seem to be loads of families around here where the grand-parents have moved in order to be able to care for their grandchildren while the parents work, mostly Chinese or Indian but also African (of various races).
Sounds good to me, if Australia wasn't quite so far (I would have to spend about 100hrs on a plane, dropping him off and picking him up!), then DS would have gone home for the last couple of summer holidays.
Way back when I was at nursery my bf had just got back from her GPs . She'd been there for years (granny came to UK with her when she came over here to school and did all the childcare). I don't think there were any problems as a result. (My mum was rather envious I think.)
When I was 2yo I was packed off to my grandparents for 2 weeks (I barely knew them). When my mother came back she said I had a complete (and permanent) personality change, I became wary of her, disinclined to cuddle, much more emotionally reserved. My mother deeply rued the holiday she took without me.
My grandmother is a kind woman who had many of her own young children still at home then. I don't think anything bad happened. I was used to being in childcare most the day, too. But I wasn't happy being dumped with people I barely knew, not understanding where my parents were, why they had left me, or when they'd be back. My own story is why I can't help if the baby in OP's story was really happy about it.
Many of my italian friends send their children, including v.little ones, to gps at beach or country for the summer. That's because the holidays are 3 months + and it's too hot in the cities, with nothing to do.
It's a bit of an exaggeration to say it's 'culturally normal' for Filipino women to leave their little children to go abroad and be cleaners. It's certainly not at all unusual or surprising there, but they do it because they are poor and unemployed.
Oh I see. That's sad to hear lljkk. Lets hope that in this case the baby knew his grandparents a bit better. I loved being with my grandmother (both gradnmothers really, though I saw more of my maternal grandmother)