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to find it irritating when people seem to think there's something wrong when there's not?

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onthepier Wed 16-Sep-09 18:04:36

This hasn't happened a lot but a few times, including today!

I was walking back from work, calculating how much time I had before the school run to get things done, bearing in mind one of my dc's was going out to tea so I had two pick-ups to do as well as friends coming round later this evening!

Suddenly a car pulled up next to me and it was the lady down the road. She said, "Are you ok, you look very solemn!" I brushed it off, saying, "Oh no, just too much to do and too little time!", laughing. She still sat there, looking a me quizzically, so I said, "Honestly I'm fine!" She shrugged, laughed and at last drove off.

The other week I was in a taxi, having done a full shop because my in-laws were coming for the weekend. I suppose I was thinking, "Crumbs, they'll be here soon! Have I got time to unpack shoppping/clean bathrooms/tidy up etc/need to check whether after school club is on otherwise will have to do pick-up soon!" The taxi driver was a particularly chatty one and I was polite and chatty to him but maybe pre-occupied, blush.

As he dropped me off he said, "My god, caught you on a bad day didn't I, what's bitten you?!" I said I was fine, sorry if I'd been deep in thought! I then asked if there was any more shopping in the boot. He almost shouted, "Course there isn't, I'd have said or gone back wouldn't I!" He then stomped down my driveway and drove off shaking his head!shock I must admit I felt quite upset, he seemed a nice bloke and I honestly didn't see how I'd offended him. On both these occasions I'd been feeling quite happy, just had a lot to do that was all!

Anybody else have this, or do you manage to "shelve" your own thoughts when you're out and about?

itsmeolord Wed 16-Sep-09 18:06:31

I have a friend who constantly does this. If i don't wear a huge smile and laugh a lot she asks lots of hushed questions about whether or not dp and I have had a row. hmm

scrappydappydoo Wed 16-Sep-09 18:07:13

I get this quite a lot as well especially wandering around tescos where apparently I wander past people I know who are waving and practically shouting my name but I 'ignore' them as I'm in my 'tesco zone'... so I empathize

LaurieFairyCake Wed 16-Sep-09 18:08:09

you appear to be crossing the line between looking deep in thought and looking like you need help grin

weird for someone to stop though. My dh has a grumpy face when in repose (and he's not grumpy) and he's always getting asked what's wrong.

dogonpoints Wed 16-Sep-09 18:11:39

You just have a miserabel face. A bit like myself.

ShellingPeas Wed 16-Sep-09 18:14:43

It's that thing when you walk along and some git kind person says "cheer up love, it'll never happen". Makes me want to smack them.

Littlepurpleprincess Wed 16-Sep-09 18:22:22

I hate that saying. It obviously already has happened or I wouldn't look so upset....Makes me want to smack them too.

You remind me of Arthur Dent from The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, it says "the thing that worried him the most, was that people were always asking what he was so worried about".

generalunrest Wed 16-Sep-09 18:42:06

People have said that I look really arsey when I'm in the street, even going as far as to say they thought I was going to punch them!! It's just that I don't have any expression on my face when I'm walking around, to me I'd look a bit manic if I walked around with a smile on my face all the time, prob be accused of looking smug smile

2rebecca Wed 16-Sep-09 20:23:47

I hate the "don't worry it may never happen" comments from total strangers (usually blokes) esp as I'm not usually worrying, just thinking. If women don't have big beams on their faces why do some blokes think it's OK to comment? I'm not their personal clown.

Early on in our relationship bloke used to as "what's up?" again usually when nothing was up and I was just thinking or not smiling inanely.
He now knows that makes me angry and just asks "are you OK" or accepts I'm thinking if I'm not cheerful and smiling and just leaves me be for a while.

onthepier Wed 16-Sep-09 21:04:00

Thanks for your posts, at least there are others who have this too! I suppose it just made me paranoid that this happened twice in the last month or so, especially as I'm generally a pretty cheerful person!

deaddei Wed 16-Sep-09 21:20:16

And when people say "aren't you feeling well, you don't look it"=when you're feeling fine and actually thought you looked if not shit hot, then at least ok.

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