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How hurt (if at all) would you be if someone you were fairly close to told you they were pregnant and the due date was your wedding date (which had been booked for 2 years)?

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GirlsAreLOud Wed 16-Sep-09 13:47:17


ThePhantomPlopper Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:01

I wouldn't be in any way hurt.

I would be congratulation my friend.

honeybehappy Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:13

are you having a larf why would you be hurt?

CMOTdibbler Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:13

Not at all - you can't expect people to put their lives on hold for a wedding

MarkStretch Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:18

You can plan a wedding.

You can't always plan a pregnancy.

Scorps Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:56

I would be chuffed for them

How odd to get upset over that; I'm due Xmas Day and you can't pick your EDD!

smallorange Wed 16-Sep-09 13:48:56

would not be hurt - i would be delighted for them(you may have a small baby at your wedding though!)

Lizzylou Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:01

I wouldn't be even vaguely hurt, just pleased for my friend, wouldn't even cross my mind to be cross.

meltedmarsbars Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:09

Usually we all get preggers after drinking too much AT the wedding! grin

ThePhantomPlopper Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:10

CONGRATULATING my friend not congratulation my friend. Sorry

GypsyMoth Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:21

not at all hurt,not in the slightest!!

its just a wedding!!

StealthPolarBear Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:26

not at all hurt, they might have been ttc for 5 years! Even if they hadn't I doubt it was done with malice??
(Although I have a feeling -- are you the pg one?)

bumpsoon Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:40

Not at all , im sure she didnt do it on purpose ,the date thing ,not the pregnancy obviousley grin

paisleyleaf Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:48

Is it you who's pregnant?

pagwatch Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:48


I would not in a million years expect anyone to plan their family around my wedding day.

Is this a crazy day or something.

Or is this AIBU by stealth and someone you know is upset that you or somone else is due on their wedding day?

weegiemum Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:52

If you are cross about this, you are being a bridezilla.

Carrotfly Wed 16-Sep-09 13:49:52

Are you devastated then ?


neenz Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:26

Why hurt? I am sure she didn't plan it that way.

When you want a baby you want a baby and there will always be something getting in the way so you just have to go for it.

Is she expecting you to change the wedding date? If so SIBU, if not YABU

5inthebed Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:29

Wouldn't be hurt at all. I'd be very pleased for her. I'm sure she wouldn't have done it intentially! Nobody is that good at getting pregnant!

OrmIrian Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:29

It's a shame but I wouldn't be hurt.

MrsWatson Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:39

I would think that the OP is the one who is pregnant and her friend is miffed because she's going to be due to her wedding day.

If that is the case, I would question your friendship with her. What friend would put their wedding day over and above your new baby? She must be a very shallow and selfish person and I would probably advise that you would be better off without her spoiling the birth of your new baby.

3littlefrogs Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:44

Why would I be hurt? That would imply that the person was brilliant at planning and conceiving, and did it all on purpose. I never met anyone who could plan a conception with that degree of accuracy!

I might feel sad or disappointed, but not hurt. Then I would try very hard to put a smile on my face and congratulate them.

StayFrosty Wed 16-Sep-09 13:50:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

PeedOffWithNits Wed 16-Sep-09 13:51:34

so they are not allowed to get pg near your wedding???talk about self centred.

perhaps they have been trying for years, and it was a fluke, perhaps it was an accident but they have decided to go through with it, perhaps they cannot believe they got lucky first time.....whatever the case you should be happy for them

what if your friend loses the baby? will you secretly be pleased, as it fits your plans better


GypsyMoth Wed 16-Sep-09 13:52:25

is it a pregnant bridesmaid??

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