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to hate hate HATE the phrase " as a mother"

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NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 13:38:11

for eg
" as a mother i think its bad a kid has died"


TrillianAstra Mon 14-Sep-09 13:39:16

Are you saying if you weren't a mother you would have a different opinion?

NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 13:40:11

I dunno
like when a neighbour of my parents died and dad was incandesscent when someone said

" its so bad - especially at xmas time"
she was 94 and a hermit grin

its AQLWAYS sad when someoen dies

JeremyVile Mon 14-Sep-09 13:40:18

Yeah but no one has actually ever said that particular phrase have they?

And I say that as a mother...

HigherThanAWombat Mon 14-Sep-09 13:40:37

You're not alone. Bill Bailey hates it too.

DemmitGel Mon 14-Sep-09 13:42:33

Yes ok for actual DEATH but it's usually

as a mother I feel for x whose kid is getting into drugs (e.g.)

or whatever and in that context it can make a difference if you are a mum. As a dog owner I sympathise MORE with someone whose dog dies. Non-doggy types don't really sympathise much.

BelleWatling Mon 14-Sep-09 13:45:31

I know what you mean NoahAmin. Like you wouldn't realise how tragedies that affect children are unspeakable unless you have had children yourself. Like you have no compassion or empathy until you have spawned.

I hate this too. It means 'as a mother, my opinion trumps yours and I have the moral high ground'

Bill Bailey has a bit of a routine about it - I think based on Rosie O'Donnell saying 'as a mother I think 9/11 was awful' (or something to that effect.)

It might not have been Bill Bailey or Rosie O'Donnell but as a mother I do not have time to google.

BelleWatling Mon 14-Sep-09 13:46:29

Oh cross-posted HTAW.

CrackWhoretoPaulDacre Mon 14-Sep-09 13:47:18

As a mother, I find you all flippant and uncaring.


NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 13:51:29

its very Jeremy Vine

" as a mother i dont go to e coli ridden sand pits"

GetOrfMoiLand Mon 14-Sep-09 14:02:35

As a mother I find I get more joy from wearing lycra hot pants than my childfree friends <snurk>

NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 14:03:06

add to that " as a mother I like wearing sweaty lycra hotpants"

GetOrfMoiLand Mon 14-Sep-09 14:04:24

As a mother I like wearing sweaty lycra hotpants with weetabix remnants wiped down them and used tissues in the pocket

TrillianAstra Mon 14-Sep-09 14:04:44

As a non-mother I think you're all over-reacting and emotional.

NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 14:07:14

as a mother I think i should go and wash the kitchen floor and make ds a packed lunch tea

( cricket fgs can you BELIVE it)

BalloonSlayer Mon 14-Sep-09 14:15:47

"Yeah but no one has actually ever said that particular phrase have they?"

The Queen has used "as a mother" about Dunblane and "as a Grandmother" about Diana.

OrmIrian Mon 14-Sep-09 14:18:20

Don't you know that motherhood conveys sainthood noah? So anything that you utter as a mother is, in fact, much much more important than anything you utter as a mere normal woman.

NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 14:18:52

like in news reports

" diana, a mother of two"
kidn of thing

VeeEsss Mon 14-Sep-09 14:20:48

I prefer 'As amother' to the all-knowing-any-argument-winning 'Do you have children?'

BalloonSlayer Mon 14-Sep-09 14:21:53

They say that about men too.

"Skinhead Thugg was arrested on suspicion of assault yesterday. Thugg, a father of one, has previous convictions for..."

and so on.

NoahAmin Mon 14-Sep-09 14:22:30

defence solicitor once told me about the usage of " Wayne isa family man"

( ie he has 20 kids littered around by diffo women)

MorrisZapp Mon 14-Sep-09 14:25:02

I love how the media think that spawning kids is an indicator of inner saintliness.

So 'yob kills father of two' etc. The yob may well have spawned some kids too but he's a yob, not a 'father'.

As for women whose own kids have managed to spawn, well, she's basically untouchable.

'Yobs steal grandmother's handbag' etc. As if there should be extra punishment for crimes against those who have had a kid and their kid has had a kid.

'50 year old woman' doesn't have quite the same ring to it.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 14-Sep-09 14:25:26

Annabel Karmel always says it before she starts spouting her rubbish useful information.

FattipuffsandThinnifers Mon 14-Sep-09 14:26:24

YANBU. I hate it too. But then again I have found that "as a mother" I have much less tolerance for some things than before.

nighbynight Mon 14-Sep-09 14:35:03

"As a mother, I think that Alan Partridge, for example, is a twat."

Hmm. I quite like that sentence actually.

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