to want to move house AGAIN?!

[PDR]

Ok, we moved into our current house last January and before that we had only been in our previous place for 12 months but we needed the extra space for our baby to have his own room (1 bed apartment). DH was ok with this, we moved, everything fine.

Now my mum is living with us temporarily as her house has sold and she hasn't found a new one yet (downsizing to something more manageable).

I am really enjoying having mum live with
us. I know this would be a lot of people's worst nightmare but I love it! She's around if I need a hand but most of all I don't feel guilty as she is on her own so I had always been worrying that she was lonely.

She seems to be enjoying it and we have now got into a family routine. My husband is from a big family and doesn't mind her being around. He equally wouldn't miss her if she moved out IYKWIM.

So, I am thinking of asking DH if we would be able to look for a bigger place and all live together on a permanent basis. We have 3 bedrooms now and a small study and whilst this was fine when we moved here, now we have mum in one bedroom and we are TTC DC2 so will need more room very soon...

I can almost see his expression at the thought of packing everything up again... I can hear his cries of "why the hell did you just make me redecorate the living room " etc etc. I know moving is a PITA but sooner or later it's going to have to be done so why not sooner?

AIBU and should I just keep quiet?!

[addictedtomn]

insted of asking him if you can move again, why dont you ask him what he thinks of the current situation, and how he would feel making it permanant.

that way he can suggest moving house and it was all his idea!

[niece]

It must be lovely to have your mum around, if it works i would make it permanent...
Good luck persuading DH to move again, but i'm sure it will all work out ok...

[PDR]

Hello ladies

Yes it's great! A whole other AIBU but a lot of people have been v negative about it

My mum is one of my best friends and if she wasn't at home with me, I'd probably be chatting on the phone to her lol!

DH not bothered either way, but TBH this is typical DH behaviour and probably secretly pleased I have someone else to nag ;)

[Knickers0nMaHead]

Does your mum want to live with you permanatly? I agree with addicted though, make him think it is his idea to move

[PDR]

Yes she does... I think she'd like a bit more space if it was a permanent thing tho as her sister (my aunt) likes to come for a "holiday" once a year (we live at the seaside).

If only I could just organise everything myself, shift all our stuff and just casually mention to DH "oh by the way, we're moving house tomorrow - here's the address - here are your keys - see you there" LOL.

[Morloth]

You probably don't have to make a decision just now do you? Why not just leave it, let your mum know you are happy having her around and if/when space becomes a problem deal with it then.

Never do today, what you can put off until tomorrow!

[Stephief]

Hi,
Until recently me, dp and our threekids lived with my mum. I was living in a very expensive privately rented house, and my dad had a stroke and so my parents needed to move, so mum asked if me and the kids and dp would move in with them, and they bought a house for all of us to live in. It was great, help with the cost of bills alone was great, and I got on so well with my mum that there was never any friction. But dad died, and I had another baby, so I decided time was right to move out again (we had lived together for two and a half years though!) Mum wants to move somewhere smaller eventually, but the kids love having two homes now, and mum still has them all weekend

[PDR]

Stephief - good to hear someone has had a positive experience!

Did your decision to move out again cause any problems? That is one thing I worry about that one day we might want to go our separate ways and it would really upset my mum....

Still, I would like to have more DC and she is such a big help to me and my son adores her.

She still works full time now (loves it) but one day she will have to cut back and so would be spending more time at home during the day so not sure if that would be a problem or not...

[niece]

What if your mum was to buy a house near yours,

That way she'd still have her independance, and you could be round each others all the time.

And you wouldn't have to move...

[PDR]

niece the house she has just moved out of (too big, too much garden etc) was on the same road as us! She was still always at ours as I am at home most of the time to cook etc. She basically just slept there!