to feel irritated that neighbours have 'designated disabled space'...

[Southwestwhippet]

in a crowded on-street parking zone when they do not have disabled badges displayed in any of their cars nor do they appear to have any disabilities?

Yes I know, I am probably BU and many people have hidden disabilites but I was under the impression to get a designated disabled space outside your house you had to be able to argue to the council that you couldn't walk any further than from your car to your front door unaided... and have disabled badges.

There is no other designated parking, cul-de-sac is a general free for all and parking is at a premium. I was bad and parked in their space on one occassion, however they were round here within 20minutes asking me to 'move out of their disabled space'. Fair enough I suppose but it seems a little unfair when they appear not to have any trouble walking.

Obviously I haven't (and won't) park in their space again as don't want to upset my neighbours but AIBU in feeling a teeny tiny bit frustrated at the apparent unfairness of it?

[LoveBeingAMummy]

I expect they didn't realise they had to convince you they needed one. yabu

[bigstripeytiger]

You could phone the council to query if the space is still needed? Maybe the person living in the house your neighbours needed a disabled space but moved?

[FabBakerGirlIsBack]

YABU

NOYB

Councils don't give out these spaces willy-nilly.

[Tidey]

Just found this:

'If you have substantial difficulty in walking to your car you may be able to get some assistance with parking nearer to your home. Any request for a disabled parking bay must meet all of the following criteria:

-you need to be registered as a disabled person
-you need to be in possession of a blue disabled badge
-you have no suitable off-street parking available at your home
-you are a registered owner and keeper of a vehicle and hold a current driving licence
the bay does not contravene any existing parking regulations that are in place, in the street.'

[diddl]

Do they have a child who it is for?

[limonchik]

You should go round there and demand to see their disability.

[Southwestwhippet]

What is NOYB?

No children, well they have an adult son. Yeah I guess I knew I was being unreasonable. I know I shouldn't have parked in their space.

But I did wonder if the space was perhaps needed by a previous tennant or in the past but not now. Not really bothered enough to do anything about it TBH it isn't a major deal.

[PeedOffWithNits]

OP, YABVU, have you any idea the lengths people who are entitled to what you see as "perks" have to go to to get the help/adaptations they need

you are their neighbour, you do not have to be told their full health details!!

[PeedOffWithNits]

I guess NOYB = none of your business....which i agree with!

[Tidey]

NOYB - None Of Your Business, I think Sourhwestwhippet.

[Tidey]

I'm really sorry, I meant southwestwhippet, my touchtyping's bloody awful. Many apologies

[PeedOffWithNits]

Oh, and they probably do not display the badges in their car permanently as these blue badges are NICKED if you leave them in cars

[TheDMshouldbeRivened]

they probably don't leave the blue badge on display cos some bugger will steal it. I have a 'designated space' but never leave the badge out!
Not that it stops shoppers parking half in it so I have to park some distance away and hobble painfully.

[bangandthedirtisgone]

Did you mean to ask - AIBU to wonder whether they are entitled to this space?

I guess if they weren't displaying a blue badge then you may have wondered if you were genuine.

It doesn't get you off the hook for parking in the space though - unless you are disabled?

[foxinsocks]

someone in our street got one as he has terminal cancer and was getting incredibly weak (so he never had a blue badge etc.)

so it may be that one of your neighbours is incredibly ill and you don't realise

it really isn't easy to get these spaces allocated - they have to prove a whole load of facts before they get it

[MillyR]

YABU.

People with disabilities don't have to make a display of being in pain just so that onlookers can be appeased about a disabled parking space.

We were parked in a disabled parking place this summer. A man with a young child came over and asked us to move as we weren't disabled or displaying a blue badge. DH said he was disabled and pointed to his badge which was clearly displayed in the correct place.

The man then said 'oh, I bet you get asked about this all the time.' We said nothing and ignored him. Because DH doesn't get asked all the time, because most people know that mobility issues are often not visible. Also, it was none of the man's business.

[HigherThanAWombat]

YABVU.It isn't easy to get a blue badge and it will be even more difficult to get a private accessible parking space.

You don't have to live with their disability,be grateful for that.

[Southwestwhippet]

True, although actually I was registered as disabled when I was younger as I had fibromyalgia and I was challenged on a number of occasions about parking in disabled bays as I didn't always look disabled. I had disabled badges so there was never any problem.

Please note I AM NOT ADVOCATING THAT I CHALLENGE MY NEIGHBOURS LOL!!! They are entitled to their privacy particularly with regards to medical health. I was just midly irritated. i will get over it.

[HigherThanAWombat]

Please don't shout.

[cory]

we haven't got one as it so happens, but if we did I am sure you would be highly suspicious: dd has days when she can walk to the front door and days when she can't. Also days when she can walk but it will leave her in pain for hours afterwards so not really a great idea. And plenty of days when she could walk from bay in front of our house but not from the space three streets down where we sometimes have to park because all other spaces are taken.

[lou33]

you do have to leave your blue badge on display if you are in disabled parking space though, or you face a fine

[Southwestwhippet]

Sorry. Is that a faux pas on here? Just wanted to make sure anyone scan reading read that line.

[bentneckwine1]

We applied for a disabled space for my terminally ill mother when the cance spread through her bones. It took months and we had to pay to make the application. Someone came to the house to interview mum, took photos of the road and drew a detailed map showing the proposed space and any possible impact to other road users.

My mum died before they had finished deciding if she needed a space. There is now a designated disabled space outside the front door and we have to walk past it every time we enter the house. Notified the local authority of mum's death and asked them to remove it...they said no!! It will remain where it is until the next time the road surfaces are being upgraded/repainted when it will be covered up. So years from now.

[PeedOffWithNits]

OP so you know first hand that disability is not always obvious to the casual onlooker

so MYOB!!

[HigherThanAWombat]

It's a faux pas anywhere on the net. It's basic internet etiquette not to use capitals where they aren't necessary as it's the visual equivalent of being yelled at.