I have one dd coming up for 4. She is my only child. I am so fed up with having to field the question "are you going to have any more, then?" MIL has really been putting the pressure on (dh is Catholic and I feel I am expected to pop out a whole new clan of their family chain). She even suggested the other week when we dropped dd off for the afternoon that dh & I went home and had "a cuddle"! The very thought of MIL and FIL sitting down with a cuppa and getting all cozy at the thought that dh and I might be in the process of producing another grandchild for them made me feed quite ill!
It's been hard for me to decide that I don't see myself having anymore kids. I'm 40 now and you think of all the things that could go wrong. Also for the last 12 months, I have had really bad knee pain which has really put me off having any more kids as I don't think physically I could cope with it and that, along with my age has made me feel we have missed the boat as far as having anymore kids is concerned. My knees are improving slowly with exercise and therapy, but by the time they are 100% again, I'll be at least 41 probably. Also I had a m/c 18 months ago, just before my knees bacame bad, and I really don't want to go throught that again.
All these people harping on about child no. 2 is making me quite upset - it's making me sad as if I was really fit, I'd love to have another child. I know it's what dh would like, but he understands how I feel. I just feel sad at the circumstances, but that's the way it is and I just want everyone to leave me alone and mind their own business. DH has said he'll talk to his mum - I do feel like I'm letting everyone down as the buck stops with me and I'm making the decisions - but I don't want another baby, not unless my fitness improves before I'm too old and I can't see that happening
It'w OK to have just one child, isn't it! She wont be unhappy cos she hasn't got any siblings will she?
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
AIBU?
To be fed up with all and sundry banging on about when I'm going to get round to "having another"
47 replies
topsyturveymum · 11/09/2009 11:53
OP posts:
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.