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about my neighbours who don't work and interfere in my life all the time. Much needed rant.

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 10/09/2009 11:13

I'm pregnant, having a crappy time and have just spent a few days in hospital. I've got PND and docs won't give me my ADs as they don't agree with giving them to pregnant women so I might just be a little crazy at the moment.

Our neighbours are:
A man of about 55
A lady of about 55 (supposedly blind but I have seen her make observations like 'come in, you haven't got any shoes on [sees me standing there]... oh, I mean,errrm... has he got any shoes on?')
A lady of 22
A man of 24
A boy of 2
A girl of 1

They all live in a 3 bedroom house. The young couple tried to befriend us and when she mentioned that she's going to have 'lots more' babies, I asked why they don't get their own house rather than living with her PIL. She said 'oh no, when they eventually die, we get this house, so why move out?'

But that's true of anyone isn't it? I don't live with my mum or DH's mum in the hope that they'll pop their clogs.

Young man says he doesn't work as he 'has a bad back'. Rubbish. He picks up heavy things, and sits in smoking weed all day. He smokes it until 4 in the morning with his baby girl in the same bedroom. He boasts about this. He has his music playing loud while she's supposed to be sleeping. The kids don't go to bed until about 11pm. I have been in the house (when they collared me when I'd just moved in) and it is filthy.

Young woman has decided she wants me to be her 'best friend' despite the fact we have nothing in common. We felt obliged to invite them to our wedding do, so we posted an invitation and it had my number on for RSVP. Now she txts me all day every day asking me to be her maid of honor and things like that, wanting to know what noises things are, like our bed creaks (so sex is out as they are too nosey) and she asks me what that particular noise was and things like that.

She's a trained nursery nurse and yet she doesn't work, even though there are plenty of people in the house to look after the kids while she works, or she could look after the kids while they work.

She boasts that they get over £800 a month in DSS money. Yet they don't have a mortgage (the houses are ex-council but it's only on the edge of an ex-council estate so it's not rough) and young man's parents pay all the bills so that is purely disposable income. We pay a helluva lot per month on our mortgage, where as they got left the house by young man's nana when she died.

Now I could handle most of this if they didn't pry into our live all of the time. I don't see any reason for neighbours to interfere in each other's lives. They look in our windows, call round all the time asking for this that and the other, they txt constantly, if we leave our house they make boring gossipy conversation for up to an hour and everytime we say we have to leave they carry on talking. They gossip about everyone in the street and ask hundreds of personal questions about us. They have to know every knook and cranny of our lives.

They have mice all through their house, they have gotten into their attic and have now got through into ours (though they're not actually in our house IYSWIM). They came round for 2 hours just to tell us that they'd given us mice. Then txtd about it not stop for about 2 weeks. DH set lots of traps and they did, too. The mice were killed. Then they got environmental health, which is £10ish. They said we'd have to too, but because we both work, we are struggling to get a time when environmental health can come round and we'll be in. I have got a slot for a just over a weeks time.

Next door started bombarding me with txts about getting EV out and I explained the situation.

I went out to teach nightschool the other night, and DH was working late. My mum had come round to watch DS. As soon as I drove off, old man came round to give my mum and earfull about how we would have to get environmental health out, if they'd paid to have them out, we would have to too. Even though all the mice are dead.

I'm not bothered about the money, I just can't take time off work to wait in for them to come round! Neither to I have anyone who can come to mine and sit in waiting for them to come round, plus they only work 9-5 mon-fri.

Last night, I came home from hospital, still very poorly. Their music was unbearable and I have a very bad headache that makes me sick. DH went out to the car to get my tablets, and they all came out gossiping about some guy down the street. DH said he would have to come in to give me my tablets as I'd been in hospital and was poorly so they asked ten thousand prying questions about that- then they started going on and on about 'there's no point one side getting EV out if they other side arn't even going to bother. You're going to have to.' DH explained yet again that they are coming out, but we can't just get them out immediately as we HAVE TO WORK. They went on and on until he had enough and just came in.

They then spoke and laughed very loudly all night, kept waking DS up and I couldn't sleep for their noise. Today I feel even worse so looks like I'm going back into hospital again.

So a horrible night all round really.

I just do not want to live near them or want them in my life, and yet I can't afford to move.

All they do with their day is try to look in our house and wait for us to come home so that they can talk to us for ages. Young lady said to me that she knows the noise of our car so when she hears it, she waits on the doorstep for us to pull up.

So tired, emotional and down

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TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 10/09/2009 11:14

Sorry that is ridiculously long. I didn't realise how long it had got.

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