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To expect my husband to comfort me when I cry...even when it's a lot?

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hangoninthere Tue 08-Sep-09 16:23:17

I have PND. I've been to the doctors and I'm on antidepressants which work a little. I get very tearful over little things, mostly over little things my husband says. I take things as critisism I'm very defensive. My children are 14, 18months and 4 months. I'm very tired a lot of the time!

My question is, AIBU to 'expect' my husband to comfort me when I burst into tears? I understand that my behaviour is sometimes irrational but he seems to be becoming more and more emotionally detached sad

It's as if my crying has ceased to move him. I understand this and wonder if I would be the same if the shoe were on the other foot

Fluffypoms Tue 08-Sep-09 16:26:14

he may be hard for him to understand the PND but you ANBU to want a hug/bit of comfort.
have you spoken to him about this??

colditz Tue 08-Sep-09 16:26:38

I understand why it upsets you when he doesn't comfort you, but he may be feeling under too much pressure to be the provider of all that is happy in your house.

While I struggles with depression, and I also cried over little things, I struggle to sympathise with someone, for example, who would cry because they dropped a plate - although that's just the sort of thing that used to set me off.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, or care about your feelings, but being a constant source of comfort to another adult is unspeakably wearing. Could you try NOT to cry for a bit? I know it's hard, but to be honest when you are depressed crying doesn't help anyway!

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