Please could you advise me. I have offended an old friend but don't know if she should be so offended or what to do.
My friend is my DD (aged 8)godmother. I only got her christened last year though. My friend has a DS of a similar age and lives about 2 hours from me. We usually go and stay with each other a few times a year or least she stays with me, I've only been invited to hers a couple of times in recent years.
Anyway, I am a single parent and work part time and find life quite tiring at the moment. I am possibly about to be made redundant, my DD is changing schools and her Dad is being very difficult and hasnt seen her for over a year.
When I see my friend we usually have a good weekend but the children tend to argue and the problem I have is that my friend has endless energy and wants to do things from morning to night over the weekend and I end up feeling shattered.
She rang at the beginning of the summer asking if she could come to stay for a weekend and said she wanted to go somewhere that is about an hours drive away, quite expensive (for me at least) and somewhere I'd recently been to. I wrote (I thought) I really polite email saying for those reasons, I'd love to see her but would rather do something more local and cheaper. I had no reply so I rang her and tried to explain but she didn't seem to understand so I ended up saying (regretably) that I ended up feeling exhausted after we spent the weekend together. The conversation ended ok but I did feel I had been way too blunt.
Since then I have called and emailed and she hasn't replied. I even said it was my DD's birthday coming up and that she was changing schools etc and she didn't send a card even though she is her godmother.
I want to apologise but the problem is that what I said was true - I also felt at the time quite irritated to be fair that she invited herself for a weekend with already a plan of what she wanted to do while here and wouldn't accept my reasons for not doing them or let me entertain her. Most importantly though I feel really upset for my DD and upset that she has got so offended that she hasn't acknowledged my DD's birthday.
My friend does get upset easily and I do feel that I can't ever say no to her without her being offended. On the other hand I am fairly tactless.
Any advice?
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long story - I have offended a friend. Is it me or not?
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susia · 06/09/2009 22:41
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06/09/2009 23:08
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