Situation is this. I have a 'career', reasonably well paid and DH had a 3 day pw job in a department store that he hates but contributes to the household expenses. On the other 2 days he is a designer/artist. He has had limited sucess with this but is never going to be able to live off it-hence the other job. However he is dedicated to this and I have never asked him to give it up to work fulltime and tbh I don't think he would. I am therefore the major wage earner.
This has never been an issue until DD was born. A combination of maternity leave and then me going part-time (4 days pw)plus nusery costs has left us pretty skint. There is light at the end of the tunnel though as when DD starts school she will only need some days in before and after school clubs.
I want my DH to take her to school on his 2 days 'off' and pick her up on one of these. I will do the pick up and drop off on the other days and she will be in before and after school clubs for the rest of the time. He has agreed to do the drop off at school on his 2 days which means she won't need to go to a before school club. However he doesn't want to give up his afternoons on the 2 days to pick up as he says he needs this flexibility.
I am really annoyed. He gets to do what he wants 2 days a week and I never have anytime to do that. He would say his design work is just as much of a job as mine but I don't see it myself. I just don't want to put DD into any more child care than is necessary for cost reasons and also because I would prefer a parent pick her up from school some of the time. Hw would still have from 9-3.30 to himself on those 2 days!
I don't want to start a row with him but would like some other perspectives and suggestions on how to broach it to get a win/win.
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fifitot · 03/09/2009 12:14
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