i think i had let this situation go on for too long...but ive just spat my dummy out with a pushy mother...
my DD was involved in a charity thing over the summer hols - it involved 4 girls and one of the girls mothers was the adult coordinator. she volunteered herself but was taking it very very (!) seriously
the charity they chose was not in my mind a legit charity - they chose the catholic church (yes you heard right - the catholic church) so i had a hard time finding the enthusiasm and funding for my DD, but i donned a smile and did my best
she has had 6 weeks of hard work, sponsored walks, tombolas, bun sales, raffles, and going to church 3 times a week. in the midst of this she contracted swine flu and had a couple of weeks off, one of the other girls has done nothing to contribute while 2 of the others have been doing loads, but they are catholic. my DD was somewhere in the middle....having done a fair bit to contribute until she got ill.
tonight mrs pushy phoned me to tell me my dd was required for the next 4 days for events etc....i said i am now working full time and couldnt manage to get her to them all and mrs pushy totally spat her dummy out with me! she said it was imperative she be there for the next 4 days - she really lost it! i couldnt believe it...she was rude and obnoxious and said my DD hadnt done enough because she had been absent for 2 weeks with the flu. she expected me to allow my DD to go to run a tombola tomorrow and then come home to an empty house because im at work, (not knowing there was anything scheduled i had made arrangements to take my DD to work with me so she isnt alone all day.)
so upshot is ive told her to shove her charity where the sun dont shine and take my DD s name off the books. DD was in tears over it and i made the decision that it just wasnt worth the agro. it was due to finish sept but they said it may well be extended, i cant commit the time any more, and it was voluntary anyway. i felt like i was being told off by the headteacher the way this other mother was carrying on...
have i been unreasonable to put a stop to this so near to the end? i feel sorry for my dd but she agreed she had had enough and was frightened to say anything. the thing is there are prizes up for grabs and im sure this team might be in the running due to mrs pushy working them to death....if they do win anything she wont be part of it anymore but tbh the girls she was working with on this werent very nice kids (very pushy and opinionated) and my dd doesnt seem that bothered....but she will be if they win!
i wish id put my foot down earlier...never again!
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