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Satsuma1 Tue 01-Sep-09 18:43:41

When I went to collect DS (18 months) from nursery at lunchtime, the staff in the room were running about screaming (very loudly) because there was a wasp in the room. The children were all sitting at the table having their lunch, but you could see on their faces they were shocked and confused at the staff's behaviour.

I really feel that to act in this manner (even if you are scared of wasps) is inappropriate and not really a good example for the children. In my opinion the wasp should have been dispatched in a calm and quiet manner.

I am thinking of mentioning to the nursery manager. I don't want to cause trouble for any of the staff, but I do feel they should have some level of control in front of the children.

What do you think? AIBU to find their behaviour unacceptable and AIBU to speak to the nursery manager, or should I mention it to the staff directly?

Littlepurpleprincess Tue 01-Sep-09 18:48:56

Tell the manager. This is fucking terrible.
I used to work in a nursery and I'm getting fed up of all the nonsense that goes on in them. That's why I quit, and thats why DS went to a childminder instead.

Sorry for the over-reaction. Rant over.

MissSunny Tue 01-Sep-09 18:50:07

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ReneRusso Tue 01-Sep-09 18:50:55

YANBU at all, I would speak to the manager

Oxymoronic Tue 01-Sep-09 18:52:17

YANBU to speak to the manager, and are right to think that children copy the behaviour they see. If they're watching the staff running around screaming then they must think that it's something they should be scared of too. There aren't many people who aren't scared of wasps, but like you say they should have had a bit of control over the situation.

BitOfFun Tue 01-Sep-09 18:52:17

You pay peanuts, you get monkeys.

Satsuma1 Tue 01-Sep-09 18:55:21

Thanks for the replies guys, I will talk to the manager.

AnyFucker Tue 01-Sep-09 18:55:40


17 yo or not, they should try to set an example to the kiddiwinks

inform the nursery manager, hopefully he/she will have a stiff word

if not, you might want to reconsider your childcare options

Tidey Tue 01-Sep-09 19:07:05

YANBU. I know several people with phobias who admit that they really only have those fears because of seeing people overreacting to things at a young age. I was scared of spiders for years because I had grown up seeing my mother getting hysterical over them. They don't bother me anywhere near as much now I live with DP, who calmly picks them up and takes them outside.

It would worry me that the staff don't have the sense to realise that the children are going to get frightened seeing that kind of behaviour.

MissSunny Tue 01-Sep-09 19:08:12

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Jujubean77 Tue 01-Sep-09 19:19:24


Please speak to the manager. You should tone things down as staff not to put fear in children. I would be angry

Laquitar Tue 01-Sep-09 19:24:13

None of you have ever done something like this when you are with your dcs? Never? grin

Oxymoronic Tue 01-Sep-09 19:39:19

Lol, it's funny you should mention that Laquitar, cos I was telling my DD not to run around flapping every time she saw a wasp, then I saw one not long after this advice and couldn't get away fast enough from the blighter grin She gave me a right ribbing for it!

Perhaps it's cos it's at a nursery with lots of children looking on, where some would be more suseptible to the sight of the flapping/screaming?

Glitterknickaz Tue 01-Sep-09 19:41:45

I'm phobic. I'd just freeze and scream blue murder until someone got rid of it.

I really, really can't help it. Phobias are irrational, that is the nature of the beast.

KiwiKat Tue 01-Sep-09 19:45:35

YANBU. There's no need to promote hysteria. Can you imagine what they'd be like if a mouse got into the nursery!

edam Tue 01-Sep-09 19:45:45

Yeah, but Glitter, I'm sure not everyone in the room had a genuine phobia. And anyone who does will probably have the nous to tell the other members of staff about it beforehand. 'I'm really scared of wasps, if one flies in, can you deal with it?'.

And I bet if you worked in a nursery you would try to moderate your natural behaviour in front of small children, too.

katiestar Tue 01-Sep-09 19:48:29

Screams are usually involuntary.If I saw a huge spider i would shriek whether i wanted to or not.

junglist1 Tue 01-Sep-09 20:47:24

Ridiculous. If they can't be mature they shouldn't be left in charge of children. They are encouraging phobias FFS.

MissSunny Tue 01-Sep-09 20:51:10

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superduperminder Tue 01-Sep-09 20:55:46

YANBU. That is a surefire way to make children terrified of wasps.
I have a bad spider phobia. However, as a childminder I make sure that if I see one whilst I am working, I'm all "oh a lovely spider, who wants a look" (whilst breaking out in a cold sweat and trying not to freak out!)

bigchris Tue 01-Sep-09 20:57:58

By junglist1 on Tue 01-Sep-09 20:47:24 Ridiculous. If they can't be mature they shouldn't be left in charge of children. They are encouraging phobias FFS.

that's me in the garden every time a wasp comes near
quick someone call social services, I'm not fit to be in charge of my kids hmm

junglist1 Tue 01-Sep-09 21:06:15

Oh screech away then.
These young children were probably quite scared. They see 17 year olds as adults.
What if a real emergency happened then?

morningpaper Tue 01-Sep-09 21:08:48

lol I used to have a male boss that was like this

I really wouldn't give a toss - they are young women liable to over-excitement

TheCrackFox Tue 01-Sep-09 21:10:31

My dad is like this - but then he is allergic to wasp stings.

morningpaper Tue 01-Sep-09 21:13:40

My brother once kicked through a glass door trying to kick a wasp, when I was about 6 and he was 20

I still recognised that he was a big girlie wuss rather than facing an actual life-and-death situation

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