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to have started to hate baby group politics?!

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tryingtobemarypoppins Fri 28-Aug-09 21:33:56

Those mums who have a perfect child and love to highlight your childs imperfections......

Those mums who say their child is perfect when in fact they are a sod.......

To comment endlessly about all the wonderful things x can do.......

AIBU to smile sweetly and pray my child doesn't pull perfect Peter across the room by his hair?????

dawntigga Fri 28-Aug-09 21:36:25

YANBU you forgot when they are babies the mums who have to change their babies at the same time.

Also, the pasive aggresive, so how much does ds weigh? As a opener to my dc weighs and is about the same age.

NotPlayingThePoliticsTiggaxx

TheEgoHasLanded Fri 28-Aug-09 21:37:47

i hardly ever went to baby groups, the mothers bored me to tears.

onetiredmummy Fri 28-Aug-09 21:38:42

My pet hate are those cliques of first time yummy mummies who have to have designer buggies, & you haul your 2nd hand pram into the room & swear you hear the conservation stop in horror.

EleanoraBuntingCupcake Fri 28-Aug-09 21:38:43

there are not any politics. you are all sleep deprived and rather dull.

onetiredmummy Fri 28-Aug-09 21:39:34

Conversation sorry

bibbitybobbityhat Fri 28-Aug-09 21:39:53

Its all in your head.

tryingtobemarypoppins Fri 28-Aug-09 21:40:18

Would I be unreasonable to pull perfect Peters mum across the floor by her hair??? I would love too!

bibbitybobbityhat Fri 28-Aug-09 21:43:15

She is a fairly recent mum exactly the same as you and quite possibly feeling less than adequate.

Cut her some slack, stop judging, don't seek out the bad in people - and you might eventually find one or two kindred spirits to hang out with while you get acquainted with motherhood.

mazzystartled Fri 28-Aug-09 21:43:45

yabu

most of them are just trying to make polite conversation ihe hope of finding someone to have coffee and a bun with once in a while

babies and what they can do are your common ground and shared experience. after time you might find other things to talk about. which might be more interesting

Wanderingsheep Fri 28-Aug-09 21:44:08

I loved the mums at my old baby group. Such a lovely bunch of people!

We're still all good friends now, 2 years on.

TheCrackFox Fri 28-Aug-09 21:44:22

I hated baby groups -strangely I enjoyed mother and toddler groups.

Some delusional women are under the impression that it actually matters who talked/walked/used a spoon first. It all evens out. Personally, I can't ever remember being asked when I learnt to roll over at a job interview.

mazzystartled Fri 28-Aug-09 21:44:39

sleep deprived and paranoid

onetiredmummy Fri 28-Aug-09 21:44:45

Ha ha ha ebc, I fear you are right on the ball.

However don't you ever smirk at the 'I'm only feeding child organic hand reared perfectly shaped carrots that have been picked by myself' lines.

NancysGarden Fri 28-Aug-09 21:45:23

Nice to hear from some other mothers who feel similarly about baby groups. I had PND and although there were some lovely mums there, there was an odd atmosphere and I found myself gravitating towards other mums who seemed to be finding motherhood a bit tough too. So, as a result, never made any real contacts outside of the group.

I'll never forget the mum who seemed genuinely shocked that most of us were not able to fit into our "old" clothes immediately after the birth, (or even several weeks/months on).

tryingtobemarypoppins Fri 28-Aug-09 21:46:48

Ouch bibbitybobbityhat and mazzystartled we have been here a while - 2.5 years in fact.

MIAonline Fri 28-Aug-09 21:46:57

YABU, mostly it is people's own insecurities coming out in how they see other people's comments. Feeling inadequate...they are boasting. Feeling content yourself...they are just proud.

Yes, you get the occasional annoyance, but you get them everywhere, socially, work and baby groups.

bibbitybobbityhat Fri 28-Aug-09 21:48:11

Well if its 2.5 years then its not a BABY group is it?

NancysGarden Fri 28-Aug-09 21:49:53

Mia, you are right. This is not baby-group-specific. It would be nice to just rise above it , not always possible though.

curiositykilled Fri 28-Aug-09 21:49:54

I hate baby group politics. The baby group I used to frequent had a big thing about size that got totally out of hand "my baby is bigger than your baby". One of the mums started showing off about her dd being in age 2-3 clothes at 12 months - we had a peep at the labels and discovered it to be a rather obvious lie. I found it funny to think anybody would want people to think they had an abnormally massive monster baby! lol

tryingtobemarypoppins Fri 28-Aug-09 21:50:06

LOL onetiredmummy and TheCrackFox true!!

NancysGarden 2 years on I still don't fit! grin

cyteen Fri 28-Aug-09 21:50:32

YABU

Find a different group if you hate them so much. Or stop assuming they're all out to hate on you and start cutting some slack/practising your serene expression/delving a little deeper and maybe making some friends.

onetiredmummy Fri 28-Aug-09 21:51:44

bbh - Baby group or toddler group, the same applies. At toddlers it just means you talk about whether your child can count up to 100 or say their alphabet yet.

tryingtobemarypoppins Fri 28-Aug-09 21:52:21

Very sorry bibbitybobbityhat

noodlesoup Fri 28-Aug-09 21:53:11

I've met some fantastic people at baby group (plus a lot of dullards and biggots). We did talk almost exclusivly about our dcs at first as that was our common ground but that changes when you find people that that you click with. I think lots of people are a bit insecure because of losing the social life they had at work and with childless friends and get a bit showy offy for a bit but most are quite normal given the chance.

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