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AIBU?

To want to delete my sister from Facebook because she is using it to start arguments?

18 replies

2anddone · 28/08/2009 19:29

My mum and I get on great until you throw my sister into the mix with us. My sister is very controlling and really knows how to manipulate mum. I am not a huge fan of facebook but I do go on as I have lots of friends spread all over the world from my days before children when I used to travel abroad alot and friends that have emigrated and find it a really good way to keep in touch. My sister used to live in Essex but has moved back home to try to fight her eating disorder (I have posted about her before) so I have her on my friends list so she can see photos of my lo's as she didn't get to see them very regularly. Anyway sorry for waffling! She is now at mum and dads house and checks her facebook all the time the problem is she makes comments to my mum about what I have put and lets her look at all my pictures etc. I know this doesn't sound a bad thing but my mum is an incredibly jealous person and hates to think her gc are spending time with others or that I have taken them for days out without her etc. Today I have been round and mum has made 3 or 4 remarks about what I have done in the week and the fact my best friend had dd on Wed while I went out with ds. We don't argue but I am really close to losing my temper with all the snidy remarks. I have asked my sister 3 or 4 times over the week to not keep showing her my facebook pages but she still does, so AIBU to delete my sister as my friend and pretend that I have left the site? Or should I just put up with all the attitude I am getting whenever I take the dc roung to visit mum?

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 28/08/2009 19:32

Just delete her

rubyslippers · 28/08/2009 19:32

your mum sounds a little odd re your children, and TBH that would worry me more than your sister seeing pictures of her niece and nephew

MichKit · 28/08/2009 19:33

Just delete her.

bibbitybobbityhat · 28/08/2009 19:35

No, you've asked your sister not to show your mum and presumably told her the reasons why? and she hasn't done what you've asked - so delete her. But tell her that you are deleting her and why.

Facebook is a mystery to me. Don't people want to have any privacy any more?

MyMamaToldMe · 28/08/2009 19:45

Delete...

swallowedAfly · 28/08/2009 19:46

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Mybox · 28/08/2009 19:53

Delete

oldraver · 28/08/2009 19:56

Yes delete her, but do you have to comment on FB all the time about what your doing

2anddone · 28/08/2009 20:00

It's not all the time, I spend far too much time on MN for that
But I will comment on a fun day out we have had or send a message to a friend to thank them for having dd. I also have family in Scotland (is dh family) and we often put pictures on there for them to see what the children have done as we only see each other once a year if that.

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claw3 · 28/08/2009 20:05

From everything ive read about Face book and the effects it has on relationships, could you not delete it and keep in touch with friends another way?

lovechoc · 28/08/2009 20:06

why use FB at all. it's just sh*t has anyone ever heard of group emails to keep in touch with what you are doing??? what on earth would we all do in the world without FB, I wonder...

Ponders · 28/08/2009 20:08

delete her and block her from being able to find you so she doesn't know you are still there.

Or is she friends with other friends of yours in which case she would see your posts on their walls?

MANATEEequineOHARA · 28/08/2009 20:25

Of course you are not being unreasonable. I recently deleted a whole bunch of people from fb, and it felt great!

KIMItheThreadSlayer · 28/08/2009 20:42

Delete her

QuintessentialShadows · 28/08/2009 20:45

Just stop all these little comments and mini reports about what you do all the time. You dont HAVE to use facebook to thank people, and I hardly think that most of your friends are THAT keen to see what you are up to in your daily trivia.

To be honest, I have a few friends on my facebook which are making running commentaries about what they are doing, and I find it rather pathetic. It keep them "on top" in my "active wall" or whatever, and I just keep thinking, "really, get a life".

PureAsTheColdDrivenSnow · 28/08/2009 20:45

Delete her.

I actually blocked my sister initially to prevent her from finding me when i did succumb to FB. I relented and added her as a friend, but then got sick of the way she treats it.

Told her this. Told her her boyfriend was being a racist arsehole (was using words I haven't seen/heard for 20 odd years) and she de-friended me!

YANBU.

Have a friend's purge. It will make you feel better

TheBolter · 28/08/2009 20:48

Delete her and if she asks why, tell her!

Firawla · 29/08/2009 11:21

delete her, but it seems your mum is behaving more weird. does she expect you to lock your kids in the house and do nothing until she is present???

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