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To think that parking buggies to face the wall in busses is weird and a bit mean?

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notanumber Mon 24-Aug-09 19:36:56

I always, if I can manage it, park my buggy in the buggy space with my child facing out. This seems like an obviously the right thing to do to me (and of course I am the definitive source of what is right). I am daily judgy surprised at how many people don't do this and park their buggy with the child facing the wall.

I just don't get it. Why would you shove your child into a space with their nose a few inches from a piece of grubby wall where they're too low down to even look out of the window when you could just as easily reverse them in so they can look at you, all the people getting on and off the bus and the view from the opposite window?

Okay, there are times when the bus is too full to manoeuver the buggy backwards, or you want the child to sleep and not be distracted, but the majority of the time it just seems plain mean to banish them with their faces to the wall.

Apart from anything else, it's brilliant having them facing outwards because old ladies and broody teenaged girls entertain the child for the whole journey while you --read Heat-- compile educational flashcards.

FuriousofTunbridgeWells Mon 24-Aug-09 19:38:43

Wow. AIBU hits a new low.

5inthebed Mon 24-Aug-09 19:38:54

I don't like them facing this way either, but usually because the pram usually tips if the driver goes around the corner too fast. Seen it happen plenty of times.

littleducks Mon 24-Aug-09 19:39:50

i would do that with ds when he was smaller, as i generally wanted him to go to sleep

scottishmummy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:40:59

even i cannot muster enthusiuasm for this bag o shite post

dinkystinky Mon 24-Aug-09 19:41:39

People on a busy bus regularly bash into buggies with shopping etc - I'd much rather the handles take a bashing than my child so I park the buggy facing the wall, stand next to them and talk with them.

notanumber Mon 24-Aug-09 19:43:48

Oh, well if even you can't, scottishmummy then all ask for it to be deleted at once.

ExtraFancy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:44:39

I have absolutely, honestly, never thought about it. They must all be terrible mummies, well done you for being so much better!


scottishmummy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:46:08

yes chop chop hit the wee red flag.

TheMysticMasseuse Mon 24-Aug-09 19:48:21

Here, notanumber, get a great big shiny medal for being so good

YABU doesn't even begin to capture it, frankly.

MrsBarbaraKingstanding Mon 24-Aug-09 19:49:45

Bloody hell, what else have I not thought about or fully considered, and therefore been found (albeit oblivious) wanting as a mother in???

You need soemthing else to think about. Bigtime.

HerBeatitude Mon 24-Aug-09 19:49:48

OMG you are all mad. Where does the OP imply that she thinks she's a better mother than anyone else who does this? She's just musing on the interweb FGS.

scottishmummy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:50:53

mad you say?yes probably but hey takes one to know one

MrsBarbaraKingstanding Mon 24-Aug-09 19:51:31

HB I tink the 'weird' and 'mean' in the title implied she thinks she's better than others who do this. Don't you?

HerBeatitude Mon 24-Aug-09 19:52:22

d'you ever get bored with being such a bore, Scottishmum?

GirlsAreLoud Mon 24-Aug-09 19:53:54

YANBU, leaving a small child to face the inside wall of a bus for up to 30 minutes is a well-known cause of obesity, anti-social behaviour and will certainly cause houses in the vicinity to plummet in price.

scottishmummy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:54:11

do you ever get bored calling folk mad?

HerBeatitude Mon 24-Aug-09 19:54:33

No tbh Barbara, I didn't. It might not be a happy choice of words, but the immediate string of "have a best mummy award" type postings just struck me as so unnecessarily aggressive.

There seems to be a lot of that around atm.

HerBeatitude Mon 24-Aug-09 19:55:15

I don't call folk mad that often SM, so no.

Whereas you are a bore on a fairly consistent basis, IMO.

HerBeatitude Mon 24-Aug-09 19:55:16

I don't call folk mad that often SM, so no.

Whereas you are a bore on a fairly consistent basis, IMO.

GirlsAreLoud Mon 24-Aug-09 19:55:49



dizzymare Mon 24-Aug-09 19:58:34

Facing the wall is the root cause of all evil don't you know shock

scottishmummy Mon 24-Aug-09 19:58:34

and B-R-E-A-T-H-E=clearly you need to vent,by calling folk mad and me a bore

notanumber Mon 24-Aug-09 20:00:55

I'm an awfully rubbish mummy an awful lot of the time, but there are some things that I do (becuase they're easy) that seem better than the just as easy alternative. The buggy thing for example.

Don't think I'm an overall better parent than wall facing parkers, nor do I think that they are therefore bad parents. Just that I made the better (trivial) choice that time about that one thing .

I know it's judgy. We all get judgy, don't we? I'm not suggesting informing The Social as a Matter of Priority or nuffink.

bibbitybobbityhat Mon 24-Aug-09 20:01:53


I think its a bit odd, too.

Funny how horribly judgey people can come across whilst falling over themselves to condemn you for being a titchy bit judgey yourself.

AIBU is a funny old world.

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