To feel just a bit narked

[babyicebean]

Basically there is a group of 7 women who I am friends with. Out of the eight of us I have 3 under 7,one has a toddler, one has aalmost teen, a couple of them have teenagers,1 has a hulking great 20yr old and the others have no kids.

Yet again I find out through the joy that is facebook that they all went out at the weekend, that and them yelling to each other over fences that they had a good time, it must have been fairly obvious as himself noticed.

We spend evenings sitting out in gardens drinking and socialising with OH's(usually) and outings are arranged.I can't remember the last time they invited me out with them on an evening round town and I feel a little pushed out.It is ok for me to take in parcels and do emergency childcare and for hubby to fix various kids bikes but it is not ok for me to go out with them.

Am I being over sensitive or just plain daft?

[LovelyLulu]

You are not being oversensitive or daft at all, you are feeling left out and it's understandable.

I am just wondering if they have got used to an out on the town clique and don't think of asking anybody else along.

[babyicebean]

We had a new neighbour move in a month ago and they invite her along on these jollies.

I would ask but to be honest I have no idea how to broach the subject with out sounding either a needy loner or bitchy plus I am slightly afraid of the answer.

[LovelyLulu]

Is it just nights out on the town you are excluded from?

[babyicebean]

They all work during the week so they tend to socialise in the evenings.They all seem to do there own thing during the day as they all have OH's

[nickschick]

I know what you are saying I had a similar thing my dh was working nights so several times I was asked and had to decline now hes not working as many ive had to say 'oi include me now!!' in a jokey way.

[LovelyLulu]

Maybe just drop into the conversation about how much you'd like to go out in the evening, mentioning one of the places they've been to "...I'd love to go to such and such..." and see what they'd say.

[NanaNina]

Oh babyicebean - what a shame. I would be honest and say "hey how is it that I don't get to go out on the razz with you lot" - try to keep it light hearted. If you don't say something you will only get more resentful probably. Am I right in thinking they all work outside of the home and you don't - do they maybe go for drinks after work and make weekend arrnagements then.

There is probably a perfectly simple explanation.

[junglist1]

Don't do anymore childcare for starters. How nasty. Go out with your other mates and withdraw while acting like you don't give a crap. Friends should make you feel good, not bad. There is no point to these women whatsoever. And don't ask to go out with them.

[HecatesTwopenceworth]

Why don't you organise a night out? Maybe they think for some reason you're not interested in nights out? I have no idea why they would think that but perhaps they've got that impression? Have you ever been invited and had to turn it down, for example?

[babyicebean]

Thank you all.

TBH I only have 1 other friend and she works shifts and does emergency shifts so we tend no to plan anything we just go with the flow.

I tried organising a night in but no one turned up which was a bit yuck.If I try to do a night out they all seem to have other plans so they never seem to be about to go out.

I realised why it upset me today - its that favourite time of the month.