Ds is the youngest in my family. He is the only grandchild for both sets of grandparents. So he does get spoilt quite a bit by them.
MIL often buys him stuff if she sees things he would like - nothing big, but stuff like a comic or sticker book. Once a week she takes him to McDs and he gets a toy. I don't mind this. It is nice she is so fond of her grandson. She is also very generous at christmas/birthdays to all of us. Again this is very nice of her and taken in the spirit it was intended. She is a lovely woman and we get on well.
But I am sick of my house being filled up with crap by MY side of the family. Hey someone clearing out their junk? Dump it all on me. Clearly I don't mind Clothes, toys etc. I don't ask for this and I don't want it. Noone asks me if I would like it. It's stuff that we have no need for, ds doesn't play with any of it and I have no place to store it.
I have just cleared out ds room and most of it was stuff he had been given. There are 3 black sacks of it - I haven't even started on downstairs. I cleared it out in december so gives you an idea of how much stuff we get.
My mum I suspect encourages it She encourages her friends to give me the contents of their attics (bearing in mind the kids are my age or older). She also got very angry when I was pregnant if ds was brought anything new. Everything he had was handed down - some of it 20 or 30 years old. It wasn't all in particularly good condition. Also some of them want it back or want me to sell it for them (yeah cos I have the time to put in that much effort and energy) and I'm can't remember whose it whose. or they tell you they want it back after you have got rid of it.
I want ds to have stuff he likes - not stuff he gets given cos no one can be bothered to take it to the charity shop. We don't have a car so it is a real pain to get rid of it. It is sometimes lovely when people give us stuff - like dp's mate gave us a bike that his ds had grown out of.
It's not about new stuff versus old so much as feeling like we are everyones dumping ground (broken incomplete toys that ds has no interest in). Especially when my family criticises the state of my house and how cluttered it is
When we moved I cleared everything out, ruthlessly. But our new house is already beginning to clutter up again. I don't know how to stop it. I can't really turn around to people when they have brought it a long way and say 'sorry but I don't want your junk'.
It was really pissing me off today when I was clearing out ds stuff. he has way too much most of which he has never touched that we never wanted in the first place.
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I suspect I am but am still pissed off...
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TheArmadillo · 24/08/2009 15:49
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