OK, maybe I am... but I have a 3week old baby and am feeling a little hormonal myself.. .so please be gentle with me.
I have two children - a 14 month old DS and a 3week old DD. I took the two of them to a photo session this morning and got talking to a woman there.
I told her that neither child was planned and that the small age gap was luck rather than judgement...
So she launches into a TIRADE about how unplanned pregnancies make her so mad, as she's had 2 miscarriages and desperately wants a child and how it's so shit that parents (aka: ME ) just got to have children without trying.
Honestly, I was pretty much in tears by the end of it. No, my children weren't planned, but they were very much wanted and are adored by both me, DH and my DSDs.
I appreciate that going through a miscarriage must be horrid (I won't and didn't try to say I understood, because I don't think it's possible until you've lived through it and I wouldn't want to negate or somehow belittle that) but FFS, it's NOT MY FAULT that it happened...
At one point, she was ranting on about 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage, as though it should have happened to me instead of her or that if something had happened to my children, it wouldn't have happened to hers.
Thankfully, we got called in then and she was gone when we came out.........
I honestly felt like reporting her but didn't... because I didn't want to get her into trouble when what she probably needed was a friendly ear... But now I'm home, I'm fuming - because she didn't give two hoots about how I might be feeling or how her stupid ranting might have affected me....
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to want to scream 'i'm sorry but it's not my bloody fault' at this woman
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Harimosmummy · 24/08/2009 13:40
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