To not want to be married into a stuck up austrian family

[alicesadventuresinwonderland]

wanders off

with working class accent

[GypsyMoth]

don't do it then,it sounds doomed from the start if you do!

[famishedass]

just marry the bloke if you love him, and leave him to do the socialising with his family, simple really.

[jybay]

Is it the Von Trapps?

[ProfYaffle]

Does you oh have a whistle for calling the children?

[PitysSake]

make some curtains for hte kids
and a nice sacher torte

[TheCrackFox]

Handy for skiing holidays.

[LynetteScavo]

YABU...you can laugh at you FIL leder-hose behind his back.

[LynetteScavo]

Do they own a Schloss?

(My German spelling isn't very good)

[kathyis6incheshigh]

Can you find some evidence about their Nazi past and blackmail them if you don't get your own way in everything?

[alicesadventuresinwonderland]

thay are very well off

and yet have no manners


yes i have found a lot out about their background

causing a lot of arguments at the moment

money brings no sense

need to go

how to calm down ..is my question for the day

[jybay]

"How to calm down"

Personally, I simply remember my favourite things, and then I don't feel so bad.

[daisymaybe]

i really like to think about whiskers on kittens. oh, and warm winter mittens.

[sherby]

brown paper packages tied up with string always does it for me

[HerBeatitude]

Are they very good at singing?

[minouminou]

Hey....whenever you feel afraid....just whistle a happy tune.........

[minouminou]

Oh...just realised as i pressed "post"....that's "The King And I".

[GooseyLoosey]

If they are Austrian, they won't be able to tell whether you have a working class accent or not!

[minouminou]

I think, OP, you need to drum up as much courage as poss and front them out now, before the marriage.
If they see that you won't be cowed, or that you'll at least put up a fight, they may think twice about being the way they are in future.
I know what you mean, though....and I'd be worried...but all you can do is stick to your guns.
Working class accent....where from?

[MrsBadger]

it depends

if DH were from a stuck-up Austrian family I'd still marry him because he'd still be DH

if DH himself was stuck-up and Austrian, or sided with said family against me, I'd be thinking hard

On the other hand, is it the fact that you've been digging into their background thats' caused the arguments? If so I am not surprised - I';d be livid if a prospective DIL of mine started slagging off my (admittedly odd but still beloved) grandma.

either way, don;t cut up the curtains till you;re sure

[minouminou]

Good point, Goosey, but if they live here, or their DS has done for a while, they may be able to tell the difference between regional accents.
I speak Swedish with a "posh" accent as I watched a lot of Bergman films early on in my Swedish-learning-days, and can tell the difference.
Plus that, if they're primed to spot class (yuk), they'll be on the look-out, or OP may have suffered discrimination in past and is worried about it.

[alicesadventuresinwonderland]

dhs family do not even know what i have found out

dh liedto me so much about them very hard to understand it all

and today was too much

[MrsBadger]

is dh ashamed of them?

if so more understandable but still not fun

[LynetteScavo]

He would have lied because he was ashamed of the truth...go easy on him.

You wan't to be married to your DH, but you don't want to be married into a stuck up Austian family.

I don't much want to be married into a working class Irish family, but hey ho!

[ArizonaBarker]

It's pretty hard to tell whether or not you're being unreasonable when you are being so coy with the details.

[alicesadventuresinwonderland]

when I met dh

I realised we were different in so many ways

culture
religion
educations

but I was told his dad had been given a golden handshake and early retirement

actually he was convicted of a crime and
according to what I have found out giving very big bribes

he was convicted found guilty
yet
the rest is a myststery

I just feel a fool

for believeing dh and mil is so full of herself

how on earth do I keep it to myself