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bluejellybean Sun 23-Aug-09 20:43:25

trouble is they are all ballet classes locally, full of little girls, ideally I'd like to send him to a mixed class of general music and movement.

DH thinks its cruel as he will most likely be the only boy and the focus of all the attention at pick up time.

Mutt Sun 23-Aug-09 20:44:05

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bluejellybean Sun 23-Aug-09 20:47:30

He loves dancing, singing, stretching, gym stuff!

mrswoolf Sun 23-Aug-09 20:50:40

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MaDuggar Sun 23-Aug-09 20:50:48

There is a boy at my DDs Highland Dance class, he is the only one & it has posed no problem. In fact, it has probably boosted his self-esteem. He has been attending for about 4 or 5 years now!

piscesmoon Sun 23-Aug-09 20:54:27

My DS went with his friend when he was about 4 yrs. If he wants to go-send him.

Thunderduck Sun 23-Aug-09 20:54:29

If he'll enjoy it then YANBU. If he wouldn't then YABU.

choosyfloosy Sun 23-Aug-09 20:54:32

Of COURSE yanbu. There was a ballet class at ds's primary school which was mostly 50/50 girls and boys - a lot of that was music and movement. DS enjoyed it a lot at 3/4 though we fell out of the habit later.

If you can't find exactly what you are looking for, consider a real gymnastics club? DS has loved this for two years - the clubs round us have huge waiting lists so worth checking out now perhaps.

It looks very branded and therefore expensive, but maybe try Kindermusik? I'm sure there must be less expensive local ones - keep asking. Which area are you in?

Hulababy Sun 23-Aug-09 20:54:49

YANBU if it is what he wants to do.

But do bear in mind that ballet class is very different to normal dancing and singing. Are there no informal music and singing activity classes in your area?

bluejellybean Sun 23-Aug-09 20:59:49

Yes he starts Gymnastics this Autumn so really pleased about that. He would love dancing though so I think anything is worth a go! If he hates it we won't go again but I know he will love it.

Had a look at Kindermusik thanks, but its not in our county.

I danced professionally (ballet) for years so hope there is something in the blood!

Mutt Sun 23-Aug-09 21:02:16

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bluejellybean Sun 23-Aug-09 21:03:41

Mutt - because he is a boy,or because he is 3?

Mutt Sun 23-Aug-09 21:11:26

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StewieGriffinsMom Sun 23-Aug-09 21:12:21

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CarGirl Sun 23-Aug-09 21:14:55

there is one boy in the dds ballet class, not an issue at all. Ask around all the dance schools we found one that is more laid back and doesn't insist on all the school uniform straight away etc etc etc.

stealthsquiggle Sun 23-Aug-09 21:20:23

DS did ballet at nursery/school when he was 3 - he genuinely didn't even notice that he was the only boy. He only gave up, reluctantly, when there were too many clashes and he had to choose (by which time he had been joined by one other boy). As he got a little older we made a bit of a point of talking about how male ballet dancers were stronger and fitter than most athletes/sportsmen. He would still do it now, I think (he is nearly 7) if we had the time.

mum23monkeys Sun 23-Aug-09 21:58:22

Crikey stealthsquiggle - are you me???? My ds has had EXACTLY the same ballet lifecycle. And in fact a leaflet popped through my door last week advertising a new ballet school and ds is keen to start classes again this term.

Ballet training is done by many athletes (apparently the whole Scottish rugby squad do rugby, although that's not a great advert for ballet considering how badly they seem to do these days) and is a fantastic training.

maryz Sun 23-Aug-09 22:05:10

Can you find a dance class that isn't predominantly ballet? ds2 started in a general "stage school" at 4 which was drama, dance and singing. He loved dancing - all types, and has branched out into contempory, street dance, hip-hop and a number of others. The dancing has helped his flexibility and I think has made him the good sports person that he is.

Dance remains his first love, even though he plays rugby and hockey, and does loads of other things. The problem I have is that at 11 he is almost the only boy left dancing! Most give it up by 9 or 10.

maryz Sun 23-Aug-09 22:06:52

Sorry, I meant to say, if the only dance class near you is ballet, encourage him to do that anyway. By the time he notices that he is the only boy he may love it so much he doesn't mind, or he may encourage other boys to join in.

movingnow Sun 23-Aug-09 22:07:49

3 sounds a bit young?

mum23monkeys Sun 23-Aug-09 22:11:38

My ds started at 2 1/2.

stealthsquiggle Sun 23-Aug-09 22:15:41

mum23monkeys - trouble is, DS's diary has gone from bad to worse - he is making compromises right left and centre as he can't possibly do everything (much as he would like to), so even were that leaflet to drop through our door tomorrow I can't see ballet making a comeback (it would have to compete with golf, climbing, beavers, tennis.....)sad

pjmama Sun 23-Aug-09 23:06:49

My DS is nearly 3 and absolutely loves his baby ballet class, even though he's the only boy. He loves music and dancing so this class is a perfect fit for him. He may well take exception to the excess of pink one day and if he does, we'll stop then! He also loves football and cars, so I don't think it's doing him any harm wink

oldraver Mon 24-Aug-09 18:48:35

I have tried to find an informal dance class for my DS 3.7 but there is noyhing available apart from a traditional ballet/tap regimented type school. DS ,loves things liek Boogie Beebies and likes to follow the simple routines so I was looking for something similar

I did find this when searching

www.madacademy.com/

nannynick Mon 24-Aug-09 19:01:07

I used to nanny for a family where two of their boys did ballet, from around the age of 2yrs old. They didn't mind being the only boy in the class. Also they found that another boy would join the class later on, when the dance school had another enquiry from parents of a boy... so the boys then were not on their own. Both of the boys I nannied went on to do Tap and Musical Theatre.
They are both teenagers now and often star/take part in local drama productions.

The only problem I found with it was when getting changed... I'm a male nanny for those of you who don't know me, so it wasn't that practical for me to get the children changed in the same room as all the girls. The boys would therefore get changed at home, or in the car.

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