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Is It Possible???????

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juicyjolly Tue 18-Aug-09 23:34:53

I was wondering what you mners out there think of a man just being friends with a woman. No sex, no relationship other than friendship.
Do you think it possible?
What if the woman is married and the man isn't or visa versa.
What if they are both married? Not to each other obviously

If you were married and your partner has female friends would it worry you or be no problem at all?

TheLadyEvenstar Tue 18-Aug-09 23:39:11

Wouldn't be a problem to me tbh but then 90% of my RL friends are male.

Overmydeadbody Tue 18-Aug-09 23:39:52

Yes it is possible.

Most of my closest friends are male, I haven't slept with them and am pretty sure they don't have alterior motives for our friendship.

Some are married, some have girlfriends, some are single and some have been in and out of relationships while I've known them.

If I was married it would be because I truted the man, so I would like to think his female friends wouldn't threaten me or make me feel jealous or insecure.

Overmydeadbody Tue 18-Aug-09 23:40:30

I don;t know what trutting is, I meant trusted obviously grin

MissSunny Tue 18-Aug-09 23:43:21

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Trikken Tue 18-Aug-09 23:44:46

It wouldnt worry me, as long as it isnt an ex he is friends with.

I would hope he would trust me too.

MissSunny Tue 18-Aug-09 23:45:07

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theDMplagiarisedLeonie Tue 18-Aug-09 23:48:11

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HolyGuacamole Tue 18-Aug-09 23:51:16

Yep, it's possible. DH and I both have friends of the opposite sex, not a problem.

I have been the victim however of male friends who have gotten girlfriends and the gf's didn't like the friendship. It's sad but I've lost a couple of good male pals because of this unwarranted insecurity. I have one current male friend where the friendship hangs by a thread because it is patently obvious that his partner does not like him to have female friends, I find that very sad because apart from this insecurity, she is actually a very nice person.

juicyjolly Tue 18-Aug-09 23:57:25

What if one of them was a little flirty...just their nature not anything in it...would it be something you could handle as long as you felt secure in the knowledge they were just a flirt or would it bother you?

hatesponge Wed 19-Aug-09 00:00:00

HG - this has happened to me; I had loads of male friends in my teens/early 20s however as soon as they became established in LTR's, none of the GFs liked me/our friendships, and of course when asked to choose they didnt choose me

I had honestly never thought of any of the men as anything other than friends, so certainly didnt have any secret designs on them or anything. Sad really.

GrimmaTheNome Wed 19-Aug-09 00:01:34

Yes, DH and I both have friends of various genders. No problem.

Trikken Wed 19-Aug-09 00:02:26

actually i amend what i wrote earlier being that i would have a problem if dh was spending time with one girl who used to 'stalk' him, who was very flirty and texted all the time when i was pregnant with ds, I dont think he would though as it bothered him just as much as it bothered me.

clemette Wed 19-Aug-09 00:04:12

DH is VERY good friends with my (single) sister. They share a sense of humour, have a great deal in common and are drinking buddies. They have been for ten years and it has never been an issue.

juicyjolly Wed 19-Aug-09 00:04:53

It is sad, but I suppose it is more down to their insecurities.

I used to make a special effort with their new gf. Most of the time it worked, not always, but it was always worth the effort to keep a decent friend.

HolyGuacamole Wed 19-Aug-09 00:06:25

If it was a tiny bit flirty, that wouldn't really bother me. I trust my DH, simple as that.

Agree hatesponge, it is a shame as I always looked forward to my male friends meeting someone nice, because I do like meeting new people. I find it insulting to think that those girls felt insecure because of me, I feel like it slights my character when they didn't even know me well enough to judge. Hey-ho.

BitOfFun Wed 19-Aug-09 00:07:44

I have male and female friends, but tbh, I don't tend to see any of them with including my DP- same for him and his friends. I don't mean that I never get together with them alone, but they are generally friends or at least warm acquaintances of both of us, and at least sometimes we do stuff together. At the end of the day, DP and I are the most important thing to each other. I'm not sure exavtly what I'm saying here, but I can't imagine having a cosy little scenario with anyone which he wasn't involved with to some degree because I don't especially want to. And vice-versa. It's not a rule or anything- just the way it's worked out.

juicyjolly Wed 19-Aug-09 00:08:41

Is it flirting if a risque joke, comment was made?
Its just that I know it wouldn't be flirting if a girl made the 'joke or comment' to one of her girl friends or male to male.

HolyGuacamole Wed 19-Aug-09 00:10:54

Huicyjolly - you're gonna have to spill the beans lady! smile What was the comment/joke and what were the circumstances? Come on, out with it?

HolyGuacamole Wed 19-Aug-09 00:11:38

whoops, I meant Juicyjolly blush

Trikken Wed 19-Aug-09 00:16:57

depends what it was really.

Overmydeadbody Wed 19-Aug-09 00:20:16

yep spill the beans.

We need more info before we make informed decisions.

Quattrocento Wed 19-Aug-09 00:24:06

I'm married and I have male friends. Often feel more comfortable with them than with women tbh. DH is married and has female friends. All our friends of the opposite gender are just that - friends.

Sorry, what's the issue?

TheLadyEvenstar Wed 19-Aug-09 00:33:16

Juicy is this over the text message still???

Overmydeadbody Wed 19-Aug-09 09:24:30

What text message?

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