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To feel uncomfortable visiting my father's family with my step-father?

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audley Mon 17-Aug-09 17:45:09

My mum and I decided to take my DS to meet my aunt and cousin. I haven't seen them for years. My step-father wants to come to, but I feel unsure about it. They will get on fine but my dad has no contact with my mum and step dad and I feel a little disloyal by visiting his family with them. What is your opinion? Thanks

OldLadyKnowsNothing Mon 17-Aug-09 18:10:18

You're visiting some members of your family (your aunt and cousin) with other members of your family (your mum, step-dad and DS). If your step-dad was not the cause of the end of your parents' relationship, there's no disloyalty to your dad that I can see.

2rebecca Mon 17-Aug-09 21:44:05

I would ask your aunt and cousin. It's rude to take people to meet other people if they haven't been invited. I remember my husband's granny being upset when his ex wife came to an arranged visit and brought her new boyfriend along. Had she asked first it would have probably been OK.

landrover Wed 19-Aug-09 19:33:32


piscesmoon Wed 19-Aug-09 19:44:40

Ask your cousin and aunt and let them decide.

landrover Thu 20-Aug-09 11:43:25

do that

audley Thu 20-Aug-09 14:40:36

Thanks for your thoughts. My aunt and cousin are happy for him to join us, it's me that is not so sure! Fortunately because of a mix up over dates I can't go now anyway, I am relieved

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