Advanced search

cream cake child neglect

(52 Posts)
victoriascrumptious Sat 15-Aug-09 19:05:26

DD is 12months and ill with a cold and teething. I have struggled to feed her the last 4 days due to her being off her food. Today she has eaten
2 bananas
2 bottles of milk
some of those organix goodies tomato crisp things.
She has refused everything else.

Earlier I went to give her a quarter of my cream cake which has cream and jam on it. SIL piped up with "DON'T give the child cream cake!" dh "will be really annoyed".

Well yes I know cream cakes arnt great for kids but i'm desperately trying to get some fat and calories into her.

I'm a bit miffed to say the least

AIBU to be miffed?

CarmenSanDiego Sat 15-Aug-09 19:07:45

Well, cream cakes aren't ideal but probably won't hurt.

I'd be annoyed that she's acting like the police for your dh. None of her business, quite frankly.

mrsjammi Sat 15-Aug-09 19:09:56

Message withdrawn

Greensleeves Sat 15-Aug-09 19:10:03

I'm not commenting on the cream cake, but your SIL is very rude

tell her to keep her beak out

Greensleeves Sat 15-Aug-09 19:10:30

I want a cream cake now sad

Tamarto Sat 15-Aug-09 19:11:32

YANBU - If you were feeding the child cream cake every day for every meal then maybe she could have said something.
Her dh or your dh will be annoyed?

I get more annoyed with people who think certian foods are too good for children and they should never ever have them.

generalunrest Sat 15-Aug-09 19:11:37

YANBU, your SIL could have put it a little more subtly if she felt that strongly about cream cakes, but when it comes down to it it's none of her business what you feed your LO, and it's definately not up to interfere and tell you what your DH would think about it!!

She looks to have had a fair bit today, she's not starving or anything smile and it's good for them to try all different types of food, in my eyes there are no 'bad' foods, just everything in moderation.

GirlsAreLoud Sat 15-Aug-09 19:11:55

YANBU. I always give DD crap I wouldn't normally in an effort to get something down her when she's ill - usually some kind of jarred pudding but if she was eyeing up my cream cake in those circs I would let her have some.

TheFallenMadonna Sat 15-Aug-09 19:12:08

Did she tell you that your DH would be annoyed? Yikes.

GirlsAreLoud Sat 15-Aug-09 19:12:49

What sort of cream cake was it by the way?
(not relevant to the thread, I just like talking about cakes blush)

differentID Sat 15-Aug-09 19:13:59

what would he be more annoyed about- giving her a bit of cream cake or her continuing to refuse food?

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad Sat 15-Aug-09 19:15:16

What the hell has it got to do with her? Come to that - and I don't mean this in a mean way - why would your dh be annoyed, and why would your dh's annoyance be anything to do with her?

I'm miffed on your behalf!

I also give ds treats when he's not well - he had ice cream for breakfast the other day (I had a thread on here about it, actually!) - it won't do any harm, and might make them feel better.

Does your SIL only eat gruel when she's ill then?

TAFKAtheUrbanDryad Sat 15-Aug-09 19:15:41

Unless it was your dh's cake, in which case YABU! grin

Greensleeves Sat 15-Aug-09 19:17:34

pmsl at girlsareloud

yes, go on tell us

it was one of those long split fuckers with loads of sugar on, wasn't it?


Longtalljosie Sat 15-Aug-09 19:20:17

Is your SIL one of those people who spends hours pureeing and then freezing organic food for her DCs and has never, ever given them chocolate?

Or does she just not have children?

YANBU. She needed to eat something.

differentID Sat 15-Aug-09 19:20:30

<hands out bibs to greensleeves>

I bet it was an apple turnover with sugar on top.

Longtalljosie Sat 15-Aug-09 19:21:30

It's not an apple turnover - it had jam in it...

oneopinionatedmother Sat 15-Aug-09 19:21:33

i want a cream cake too

none of her business. I might be really pissy about food, but when my neighbour tells me her lo only eats fruitshoots, i don't criticise because 1) her tot will be fine in the long run and 2) it would be very rude and 3) none of my sodding businss 4) i suspect this makes things a bit of a nightmare for her as i know i haven't enjoyed my daughters pickyness (gngngngn she did eat some rice the other day..)

piscesmoon Sat 15-Aug-09 19:26:11

People like your SIL cause eating problems!

differentID Sat 15-Aug-09 19:29:09

i've had apple turnover with jam on it!

blinder Sat 15-Aug-09 19:29:48

YANBU - a bit of cream cake? being told off by SIL about what you are feeding your OWN child?!

Absolutely none of her business. Does she get to tell you what to do / not to do in other areas of your life too?

AramintaCane Sat 15-Aug-09 19:30:44

mmmmmmmmmmmmmm cake smile. She is mad cake is good.

Longtalljosie Sat 15-Aug-09 19:30:49

Have you? Oh, ok, maybe it was...

Nothing beats chocolate eclairs though.

deepdarkwood Sat 15-Aug-09 19:33:59

Ohhhhh, chocolate eclairs...

YANBU OP. But you could at least have bought a bit back for all of us.

TheYearOfTheCat Sat 15-Aug-09 19:38:39

Creamcake = calcium, carbs, 1 of your five fruit & veg if the jam was strawberry. grin

Quite seriously, this is appalling:
1. Your SIL thinks she can tell you how to raise your child
2. Not only does she think it, she said it!
3. Nothing to do with her.


Out of interest, how did you react?

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: