my sister is mad for feeding her dc baby food puree at ages 3.5 and 1.10??

[mama2b3]

my sister has 2 dd age 3.5 and 1.10 and she is still feeding them baby jars suitable from 4months. she sits them down and feeds it to them so they dont make any mess and this is the only food they have apart from yogurts crisps and chocolate! no fruit allowed as it wont help them t put on weight!!! does anyone else think this is crazy?? or is it just me?!

[CybilLiberty]

It is crazy.

[rubyslippers]

of course it isn't right

why do they need to put on weight?

[CristinaTheAstonishing]

Your poor sis. She needs to learn about nutrition. Why is she obssessed with putting on weight? They'll eat as much as they need to.

[purepurple]

no, that's just weird
she is storing up all sorts of problems

[elmofan]

it is worrying , i also heard of a mother doing this until her dd was six years old , it cant be enough substance for toddlers , the woman i know of did it because she could not be bothered to cook for her dd & when she stopped giving her dd jars of baby food she went on to buying McDonald's every day instead .

[motherbeyond]

god,that's really odd!is she thick? never heard the likes of it.you should tell her to inform her health visitor/gp of her 'interesting' menu and see what they think!eating puree wont help them put on weight either,but why does she want this anyway? the no fruit thing would really worry me,and those jars are hardly brimming with vitamins and nutrients.she sounds like she can't be bothered cooking.how are they going to learn how to chew?!

[teamcullen]

Does your sister have OCD and doesnt want them to make a mess, or is she scared of them choking. There must be a reason for her having this behaviour.

It sounds very strange, does her GP and HV know. I think she needs some help in over comming her anxieties, what ever they are.

[BertieBotts]

Can you get her to speak to her health visitor for advice?

Or buy her an Annabel Karmel toddler book or something?

[mama2b3]

they were both born v low birth weight but r now fine and i think this has made her paranoid. its a shame 4 the dc really they just sit there like puppets whilst she spoon feeds them. she doesnt like the mess as it might spoil her perfect looking children. no painting, colouring allowed in her house. her hv has been involved since dc were born and as far as i no is aware but as my sis is such a coniving and convincing liar she has prob told her a different story. she fed dd1 so much of the same jar ppl were actually commenting that she looked orange! just worried 4 her dc really

[MaggieBeauLeo]

they'll never learn to swallow properly.

My son really resisted food with lumps in it, so I was lazy and dodged the battle and kept giving him purees and mashed potato, mashed bonana etc...

I never realised that there could be any long term repurcussions to that, but there did come a time when I realised, this aint right. He was 18 months old and used to choke and gag on proper food. I was still cutting his slice of toast up into 30 pieces.

We're over it now, but I made a big mistake there, out of laziness I guess. He was my youngest, I was tired, everything had worked out alright before and I just kept feeding him smooth food cos that's what he wanted.

he's absolutely fine now, he had a bit of my tuna steak with cherry tomatoes last night, he also like olives..

[shivster1980]

YANBU

That is very odd and surely not good for them.

[screamingabdab]

It does strike me as quite obsessional and controlling-type behaviour. I would guess she'd be storing up eating problems for later, since there's a lot of evidence that toddlers and babies need to be able to touch and explore different textures, and make a mess !

[teamcullen]

Do you think your sister wants to overcome this and give her children a more varied diet. If so Im sure people will post loads of ideas to help her through the transition from baby jars to real food.

But if she is not prepared to change their diet I think you will have an uphill struggle. Maybe you could invite her DCs around for a tea party or a picnic in the park. If she sees other children enjoying food it might shock her into wanting to change their diet.

[screamingabdab]

good point teamcullen. I was sounding a bit judgey, but maybe the OPs sister wants to change things

[mrsboogie]

exclusively spoon feeding a 3.5 yr old any kind of food is terrible - how is she supposed to learn to eat?

and who could be arsed??

[Schulte]

You should call social services.

[screamingabdab]

I assume Schulte was being sarcastic ?

[Greensleeves]

I don't know, I'm not sure it IS such a silly idea

the long-term implications for those children are not good

somebody needs to do something about it!

but HV would be a better place to start, I suppose (I don't have much time for them personally, but if she's already involved...)

[screamingabdab]

Don't be . I'm not sure, either !!!

Schulte were you joking ?

[Schulte]

Sorry, was just a flippant remark - I do think someone needs to talk to your sis and get her to realise that she's not doing her children any favours. I am shocked at what she's doing.