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to be suspicious of a smell?

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suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:03:13

My bed smells of my friend.

There I have said it.

I have nothing to base anything suspicious on regarding what my DH did or did not do last night when I was away for a rare night, at his insistence.

I have never had, and probably have no reason now to suspect anything negative. BUT.

I have been sat in bed recognising a smell. its not a sex smell, or a perfume smell, but its a person smell. And it took me a while to figure it out. But I now realise, without a shadow of a doubt that this smell is my friend's smell.

AIBU to have my suspicions of something not adding up here?

Fluffypoms Fri 14-Aug-09 21:08:14

WTF is a sex smell?

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:10:02

the smell of sex.

It is a v v v v strong smell, its not a vague whiff.

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:10:47

you don't think sex has a smell fluffy?

LovelyTinOfSpam Fri 14-Aug-09 21:11:03

sex smell is sweaty musky smell.

YANBU to wonder how smell got there. Have you asked DH what he did while you were away/raised smell issue?

Am amazed that you could identify smell in the first place though. Your nostrils must be very acute.

motherbeyond Fri 14-Aug-09 21:12:44

whAT THE FUCK do you mean..what is a sex smell?!!! sex! it smells of sex!!!! bodily fluids,wet parts..need i go on?!!!!SEX!

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:12:52

am pregnant grin. DH says I have the nose of a blood hound and it is not always a good thing! And its quite overpowering. Really really strong.

Dh is not here tonight to ask.

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:15:13

motherbeyond grin

I was just lying here after taking myself off for an early night and my nose started wrinkling, you know, like 'what is that smell?' and I could place it, but did not know where from. it reminded me of something, of someone, did not know where from, or whom but very familiar.

Then I realised what it was and was perplexed, but the more i smelt it the more i was sure thats what it is.

LovelyTinOfSpam Fri 14-Aug-09 21:15:27

God my sense of smell was bonkers when I was pg. Wasn't doubting you sus, just impressed.

Mind you I rarely change our sheets so their normal smell is probably smelly grin

If it's not a sex smell then that's something. There could be many explanations. You need to talk to DH though. I'm not going to start suggesting what may or may not have happened.

LovelyTinOfSpam Fri 14-Aug-09 21:17:24

Could you call your mate and ask her?

Probably best to start out assuming there is a sensible explanation if you have no reason to be suspicious apart from smell.

You will be able to tell if she sounds guilty/weird/lying etc I reckon.

MmeLindt Fri 14-Aug-09 21:18:12

Why were you away at his insistance?

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:19:09

The thing is, even now I am not necessarily thinking he is being unfaithful. He just would not do that. I know we can never be 100% sure, but he is not doing anything else that is causing concern, it is not another thing in a long line, we are having our second child and are both very much looking forward to extending our family. Our relationship is not perfect but it is not a shambles either.

Its all very strange hmm.

God it is so strong i might have to change the sheets!

morningpaper Fri 14-Aug-09 21:21:08

I would be suspicious of being away at his insistence hmm

pasturesnew Fri 14-Aug-09 21:21:36

Have you double-checked that you do not smell like your friend? That it definitely isn't a "grown women" smell as opposed to a "Friend X" smell? As if you have been away and come back you might not immediately recognise yourself?

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:22:14

mmelindt because i have been working hard and getting stressed and he insisted I needed a break and he wanted to get on top of the housework/washing. So I took DD to a friend's who lives in the country and he sorted the house for me.

And he did. Well, I think he mostly played golf on the x-box but he did all the washing. which was a lot.

lovelytinofspam him. It is a him. The smell is a him smell.

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:23:38


I have figured it out.

Fucking hell.


LovelyTinOfSpam Fri 14-Aug-09 21:23:38

Can you call and ask her?

TBH if something like this happened to me I would just ask.

LovelyTinOfSpam Fri 14-Aug-09 21:25:43

Couldn't they just have got pissed and his mate crashed there?

Why the blush?? Have you just remember that you slept with him?

<flippant joke to calm things>

blinks Fri 14-Aug-09 21:26:46

good grief

morningpaper Fri 14-Aug-09 21:27:46

Yes why the blush

Are you wearing his cardigan?

Have you found a box of still-warm butt plugs?

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:28:03

I am so stupidly pregnant it is unreal.

I have just started to take off the bedclothes to change them, as the smell is quite strong now and its bugging me.

So. I pick up DHs pillows. And he has a 'new' pillow. He borrowed a memory foam pillow from his friend who recommended it, as DH snores quite badly and he was considering buying one. This friend said try mine, its clean, hardly used, just change the case.

I just whiffed it. OMG it is horrendous! That is not a clean pillow! That is a pillow that has been used a lot and never cleaned! Why did DH not clean it? Why did he not just buy himself a new one?

{blush] blush blush blush for 2 reasons. One that I was suspicious and Two that my DH had a fucking scanky pillow on his bed blush

morningpaper Fri 14-Aug-09 21:29:59


Well what a relief that your husband is not actually a devious bastard having gay sex with your mate

And actually he is just a big Crap With Washing

suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:30:24

He borrowed it yesterday when we were around there visiting, so I would not have smelt it before now.

I love all your theories - in particular 'have you just remembered you slept with him' LOL.


suspiciousssss Fri 14-Aug-09 21:34:43

oh how can I even face him knowing I contemplated, even for a moment that he might have...

poor poor man who has a hormonal woman for a wife!

slowreadingprogress Fri 14-Aug-09 21:35:21

wow. And for your marriage this was nearly pillow-gate. phew. grin

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