There's a little boy (4ish) outside the pub in his buggy with a dummy every Thursday when I walk home from work while his dad is there drinking. I think it is quite sad, demonstrates the parent's priorities.
Perhaps the people you saw were on their way home - sitting at home having a few beers with your mates with an 8yr old around isn't that outrageous.
yes. But judging isn't always bad. We are getting brainwashed on here to think that we must never judge anyone ever at any time. That's daft! Sometimes people do things that deserve a bit of judgement!
i don't know... it depends on how many cans they're going to drink each i'd say, i mean i'd never think twice about having a pimms on a picnic with a child... or even a glass of wine at a bbq.. but i would never get 'drunk' in that situation... some guys can have 2/3 or more cans of beer without being drunk.
YANBU, our town has several pubs all placed in the town-centre by road intersections. Weatherspoons and swanky places like that
Every time we go out late morning in the car there are badly-tattooed shaven-headed men sitting outside with toddlers in pushchairs and older kids playing on the railings by the road. They're still there when we come back past in the evening.
There is a nice park not far from the centre but when we take the DC there it is deserted.
I probably would feel differently about two parents in charge of one child and both drinking, not sure it would matter what they were drinking. Or a more 'family friendly' situation - picnic, barbecue etc.
Think there was something about it being 3 men in a way I wouldn't feel the same as if it were 3 women. I know it shouldn't be different but it just gave me a weird sad feeling.
YANBU - this is the exact reason I only let my ex see DD in the mornings otherwise she'd spend all afternoon in a pub, (not one of those family friendly ones but a bit of an 'old man's pub'). I know this for a fact as he does this with his other DD .
Depends very much on circumstances. There isn't anything wrong with occasionally having a few drinks with mates while DC are with you as long as you're not neglecting or ignoring the DC: when DS was still little enough to sleep in his buggy I (and his dad sometimes) used to go to pubs now and again. DS would be (depending on time of day and how he was feeling) running around the beer garden, looking at a picture book on someone's lap, eating mini-cheddars or napping in his buggy. We still spend a fair bit of time in and around big family-friendly pubs on morris-dancing trips whereupon DS has loads of people who care about him, usually a few other kids to run about with, and morris dancing to watch and attempt to copy (my DS in particular loves morris dancing and anyone playing an instrument - if he hated it I wouldn't take him along).