I need real, blunt advice please and I know I will find that in AIBU.
My exp drinks to excess - I would say he is an alcoholic, he was unfaithful to me many, many times, though he says it mean't nothing and very controlling and verbally abusive.
His drinking and gambling have led our family to financial ruin, we have no nice things because he sells them when he runs out of money.
He slept on the sofa for a year before he moved out as I couldn't stand to sleep in the same bed as him due to his drinking. He refuses to seek help for this, although he says he knows he has a problem.
He is though, a great father and he and our ds have a very strong bond.
He has a good job and does well there.
He thinks he should be allowed to move back in and I should help him with his problems, they way he did with mine. I had depression years ago but it never really affected our every day life. It flared up again after the birth of ds as dp was very unsupportive.
I know I am probably not the easiest person to be with (are any of us?) But I do believe that the majority of our problems and arguments stemmed from his drinking. He also says he has a personality disorder and this is why he behaves like he does.
Please just tell me how it is. I need to hear it because I feel so guilty and unsure about my decisions.
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Girlonadolphin · 10/08/2009 10:21
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